AmericanSingles.com : A Detail Review

Editor’s Rating: *** ( 3 / 5 stars )

Editor’s Comments:
A very crowded community for American singles to indulge in many activities from looking for poker partner to hot steaming adventures. But don’t tell your wife you are looking for beer pals on American Singles. She won’t believe you!

Company:
http://www.AmeicanSingles.com

Motto/Slogan:
Where People Connect

Members:
Over 10,000,000 members. Male and female ratio unknown.

Categories:
Matchmaking – fun dating, intimacy, activity partner for heterosexual and same sex singles

Countries:
USA and Canada but you will find other members from other counties too.


Free membership:
Yes. Free to join America Singles.com, to create personal profile, post multiple photos, receive emails message, use IM and chat room, or send flirt but you must be paying members to be able to reply and initiate contact.

Profile Set Up:
Profile set-up process is generally quick and painless. It only takes few minutes to answer about yourself such as picking username, name, age, location, type of relationship, physical information, education, occupation and personality traits, your perfect idea of relationship.

Another step is essay writing to describe the color of you and the tasks end with posting your photos. Now, you are ready to jump into the pool of American Singles love scene and take the advantage of it.

Search Capability:
Decent search capability. Like most online services AmericanSingles.com provides basic quick search for singles by location and special characteristic of person you are looking for. This search will return with massive database of profiles to match your ideal dates.

AmericanSingles.com’s advanced search let you find matches by ethnic, religion, language, education level, habits and more.

Compatibility Analysis:
Simple compatibility matching by comparing your profile with others


Special Features:
1. Click TM feature.
Excellent feature. If you think you have found potential matches but not ready to expose yourself too soon, you should use this feature and let AmericanSingles.com acts anonymously by introducing you to them.

All you have to do is look for the click! In their profile and click Y (for YES) and AmericanSingles.com will secretly find out if they have mutual interest. If both of you click Y then American Singles will again send both of you an YY click! Alert email.

But if they click N (for NO) – you will never receive any news from American Singles thus prevent the heartache of being personally rejected.

2. Instant Messaging – your instant gratification.
Video chat, audio chat, or text chat are all ready and handy. If you spot some potential matches are online, why don’t send IM to them and see if a little spark you throw in will turn out to be a hot fire.

3. E-cards
You can send e-cards to your friends to say hi, to your colleagues to congratulate him on his promotion or to your parent on their golden wedding anniversary. Yes. You can send any e-cards even to someone outside the American Singles community itself.

4. Astro reading compatibility by astrologist KT
Set your astro reading and find out about your chemistry against your potential matches and how their planets interact with your own. All AstroScope readings are done by renowned astrologist KT.

KT truly knows her stars, having closely studied many present-day and ancient professionals, as well having attended the college of Humanistic Astrology in Sidney, Australia and accredited by numerous astrological associations which means there’s much more to her readings than just sun signs and daily horoscope.

5. HotList
This feature really saves your time to re-search someone you’d found in your last search but somehow you lost track of her by hot listed her.

What makes this feature special is the ability to let her know that you had hot listed her that means increasing the chances she will look your profile.

6. Flirts
Too shy or tongue tight to start communication with someone you find potential to be your match? Don’t worry-use flirts. It is fun and an easy way to let someone know you are interested and introduce yourself in simple one line teaser and let the ball rolling.


Site Navigation:
Slow (61% of the sites are faster. Alexa.com)

This website is very user friendly. Well organized with attractive graphics.

Safety
Secured server makes connecting at the site anonymous, safe and you could navigate through all the site without worry about your personal data being exposed anytime of the day and night from your home or your office.

Help and Support:
Superb. Use their toll free call anytime you have questions. American Single’s customer care assistant is available 24 hours per day and willing to address your concern.

I Like:
I like the ability to see both side past actions. Who you have viewed. Who have viewed you? Who hot listed you? Who sent you flirts and so on. I will surely go to check on their profile to see if you both have mutual interest.

Dislike:
Hmm…Why it takes you so long to approve photos posting? 48-72 hours? Hei ! Other services do it faster and usually only 24 hours. You are not prescreening candidates for Mr. World, right? Cut it short dude!

Another pain in the ass, sorry, in my eyes. (;p) Very messy chat room. Really pain the eyes to see multiples colors floating on your computer screen.

Birthstone. Give Your Sweetheart the Correct One

I personally don’t believe in symbolic of Birthday gift which traditionally associated with a certain quality of the gemstones that symbolizes the month of birth in the Gregorian calendar. But I found many interesting history behind it and why they are used as birthstones and I like to share it with you.

There are many set of different birthstones used throughout the history and in different culture but in 1912, American national association of jewelers, adopted below list to standardize it and now the list is widely used not only in America, but also in many countries including Australia, Indonesia and Thailand .

January = Garnet (Alternate: Rose Quartz)
February = Amethyst (Alternate: Onyx)
March = Aquamarine (Alternate: Red Jasper / Bloodstone)
April = Diamond (Alternate: Rock Crystal / Quartz)
May = Emerald (Alternate: Chrysoprase)
June = Pearl (Alternate: Alexandrite / Moonstone)
July = Ruby (Alternate: Jade/Carnelian)
August = Peridot (Alternate: Alventurine / Sardonyx / Sapphire)
September = Sapphire (Alternate: Lapis Lazuli)
October = Opal (Alternate: Pink Tourmaline)
November = Yellow Topaz (Alternate: Citrine / Turquoise)
December = Turquoise (Alternate: Lapis Lazuli / Tanzanite )


January – Garnet
The name "garnet" comes from the Latin granatus ("grain"), to refer to the Punica granatum ("pomegranate"), a plant with red seeds similar in shape, size, and color to some garnet crystals.

Garnet is a group of minerals that have been used since the Bronze Age as gemstones and abrasives. Garnets are most often seen in red, but are available in a wide variety of colors spanning the entire spectrum.

Pure crystals of garnet are used as gemstones. Garnet sand is a good abrasive and a common replacement for silica sand in sand blasting. Mixed with very high pressure water, garnet is used to cut steel and other materials in water jets.

February – Amethyst
Amethyst is a violet or purple variety of quartz often used as an ornament. The name comes from the Greek a ("not") and methuskein ("to intoxicate"), and can be translated as not drunken. The name itself imply to the belief that the stone will protect its owner from drunkenness, which is why wine goblets were often carved from it.

There are 2 versions of legend behind the origin of this gemstone.
Version 1, when a drunken Dionysus was pursuing a maiden called Amethystos, who refused his affections, she prayed to the gods to remain chaste. The goddess Artemis granted the prayer, transforming her into a white stone; humbled by Amethystos' desire to remain chaste, Dionysus poured wine over the stone she had become as an offering, dying the crystals purple.

Version 2, Dionysius, the god of intoxication, was angered one day by an insult from a mere mortal and swore revenge on the next mortal that crossed his path, creating fierce tigers to carry out his wish. Along came unsuspecting Amethyst, a beautiful young maiden on her way to pay tribute to the goddess Diana. Diana turned Amethyst into a statue of pure crystalline quartz to protect her from the brutal claws. Dionysus wept tears of wine in remorse for his action at the sight of the beautiful statue. The god's tears stained the quartz purple, creating the gem we know today."

March – Aquamarine
Aquamarine (Lat. aqua marinā, "water of the sea") is a gemstone-quality transparent variety of beryl, having a delicate blue or turquoise color, suggestive of the tint of seawater. It's closely related to the gem emerald. Colors vary and yellow beryl, called heliodor; rose pink beryl, morganite; and white beryl, goshenite are known.

People in the Middle Ages thought that aquamarine could magically overcome the effects of poison. Ancient sailors traveled with aquamarine crystals, believing that it would ensure a safe passage, and often slept with the stones under their pillow to ensure sound sleep. They believed the siren’s or mermaid fish-like lower body was made of aquamarine.

April – Diamond
The name “diamond” derives from the ancient Greek adamas (“invincible”). They have been treasured as gemstones since their use as religious icons in India at least 2,500 years ago— and usage in drill bits and engarving tools also dates to early human history.

Popularity of diamonds has risen since the 19th century because of increased supply, improved cutting and polishing techniques, growth in the world economy, and innovative and successful advertising campaigns. They are commonly judged by the “four Cs”: carat, clarity, color, and cut.

The earliest written reference can be found in the Buddhist text, the Anguttara Nikaya, and another sanskrit text, the Arthashastra, which was completed around 296 BCE and describes diamond's hardness, luster, and dispersion. Diamonds quickly became associated with divinity, being used to decorate religious icons, and were believed to bring good fortune to those who carried them. Ownership was restricted among various castes by color, with only kings being allowed to own all colors of diamond.

In Western culture, diamonds are the traditional emblem of fearlessness and virtue, but have also often associated with power, wealth, crime and misfortune. Today, diamonds are used to symbolize eternity and love, being often seen adorning engagement rings and sometimes wedding rings as well.

May – Emerald
Emerald is a variety of the mineral beryl, colored green by trace amounts of chromium and sometimes irons. It is highly prized as a gemstone and by weight is the most valuable gemstone in the world, although it is often made less so by inclusions, which all emeralds have to some degree.

Most emeralds are oiled as part of the post lapidary process. The amount of oil entering an emerald micro fissure is roughly equivalent to the size of a period (full stop) in print.
Emeralds come in many shades of green and bluish green. There is a wide spectrum of clarity, along with various numbers of inclusions. Most emeralds are highly included, so it is quite rare to find an emerald with only minor inclusions. Because of the usual inclusions, the toughness (resistance to breakage) is classified as generally poor.

June – Pearl
A pearl is a hard, rounded object produced by certain animals, primarily mollusks such as oysters. Pearls can be used in jewelry and also crushed in cosmetics or paint formulations. Pearl is valued as a gemstone and is cultivated or harvested for jewelry.

The largest pearl ever found so far, came from the Philippines in 1934. It weighed 14 lbs (6.36 kgs) when it was discovered by an anonymous Muslim Filipino diver off the island of Palawan. Later, a Palawan chieftain gave the pearl to Wilbur Dowell Cobb in 1936 as gift for having saved the life of his son. It was first called the Pearl of Allah and is now officially named the Pearl of Lao-Tzu.

July – Ruby
The name of Ruby came from Latin ruber for red. The red color is caused mainly by chromium. Rubies can vary from a light pink to a blood red, a variety of the mineral corundum (aluminium oxide).

Natural rubies are exceptionally rare, but synthetic rubies (sometimes called created ruby) can be manufactured fairly cheaply. Other varieties of gem-quality corundum are called sapphires. It is considered one of the four precious gems, together with the sapphire, the emerald and the diamond.

Ruby is associated with the Sun in vedic astrology and symbolizes passionate love.

August – Peridot
Peridot (pronounced "pair-uh-doe") is the gem quality variety of forsteritic olivine. The name of the gemstone is believed to come from either the Arabic word faridat meaning "gem" or the French word peritot meaning "unclear."

Peridot is one of the few gemstones that come in only one color. The depth of green depends on how much iron is contained in the crystal structure, and varies from yellow-green to olive to brownish green. Peridot is also often referred to as "poor man's emerald".

The largest cut peridot is a 310 carat (62 g) specimen in the Smithsonian Museum in Washington, D.C... The peridot is believed will bring its wearer success, peace, and good luck

September – Sapphire
The name of Sapphire derives from Hebrew “sapir” and representing the tribe of Issachar.
Although blue is considered the normal color for sapphire, it is found in the full range of spectral colors as well as brown, colorless, grey and black.

Any sapphire other than blue or fully saturated red (ruby) is considered a fancy color sapphire. Sapphire includes any gemstone quality varieties of the mineral corundum except the fully saturated red variety, which is instead known as ruby.

October – Opal
The word opal comes from the Sanskrit upala, the Greek opallios, and the Latin opalus, meaning "precious stone." Opals are also Australia's National gemstone.
Opal is a mineraloid gel which is deposited at relatively low temperature and may occur in the fissures of almost any kind of rock, being most commonly found with limonite, sandstone, rhyolite, and basalt.

Opal is one of the mineraloids that can form or replace fossils. The resulting fossils, though not of any extra scientific interest, appeal to collectors.

November – Yellow Topaz
The name "topaz" is derived from the Greek topazos, "to seek ," which was the name of an island in the Red Sea that was difficult to find and from which a yellow stone (now believed to be a yellowish olivine) was mined in ancient times. In the Middle Ages the name topaz was used to refer to any yellow gemstone, but now the name is only properly applied to the silicate mineral of aluminium and fluorine with chemical formula.

The biggest topaz crystal ever found - named "El Dorado" - was found in Brazil in 1984. It weighs 6.2 kg and belongs to the British Royal Collection.

December – Turquoise
Turquoise is an opaque, blue-to-green mineral that is a hydrous phosphate of copper and aluminium. It is rare and valuable in finer grades and has been prized as a gem and ornamental stone for thousands of years owing to its unique hue. In recent times turquoise, like most other opaque gems, has been devalued by the introduction of treatments, imitations, and synthetics onto the market, some difficult to detect
even by experts.

Being a phosphate mineral, turquoise is inherently fragile and sensitive to solvents; perfume and other cosmetics will attack the finish and may alter the colour of turquoise gems, as will skin oils, as will most commercial jewelry cleaning fluids.

Prolonged exposure to direct sunlight may also discolour or dehydrate turquoise. Care should therefore be taken when wearing such jewels: cosmetics, including sunscreen and hairspray, should be applied before putting on turquoise jewellery, and they should not be worn to a beach or other sun-bathed environment.

After use, turquoise should be gently cleaned with a soft cloth to avoid a build up of residue, and should be stored in its own box to avoid scratching by harder gems. Also, make sure the box is not airtight, or the turquoise will become ruined.

Sweetheart’s Birthday? What Kind of Present do you give her?

Do you know birthday cakes have been a traditional dating back as far as the middle Ages and English will conceal symbolic items such as gold coin, ring, and thimbles inside their birthday cakes?

I didn’t know until 3 days ago when I was searching internet to find birthday present for my sweetheart but I had trouble finding the right gift for her. She is China and I want to give her something different this year. It should be romantic, special, and unique and not something “made in china too” stuffs that she could easily find it herself in China and lastly it should be easy on my pocket.


Here was a list of the birthday gift I was planning to give her and why I did not give her.
1. Flowers
Okay….She may like it. Every women love flowers, right? Flower, you could never go wrong with flower. But if you want something unique and different, flower was not the right choice. You may disagree with me but—flower? No. Not this time.

2. Chocolates
I like it. We both love it. But eating chocolate alone didn’t seem the right gift for birthday.

3. Books
I know she would not appreciate it. She would not have time to read it either. She currently is working for 2 different companies and both hands are full most of the day. How would she have time to read?

4. Perfume
Hmm---seems to be a good idea. But she‘d bought a large sum of aroma therapy soaps and bottles of fragrance oil last February when we spent 4 days holiday in Bali. Not a good choice.

5. Shoes
Last year I bought her a modern red high heel but she made me to trade that high heel with slipper. At the moment, I promised myself would not bother buy her another shoes without her presence. How do we guy suppose to know what women really want anyway.

6. Lingerie
The latest Victoria’s secret collection is so sensual. But we both agree that the most sensual lingerie is without lingerie.

7. Jewelry
It seems not right this moment. It’s not right for my pocket either. In search of jewelry I found that my sweetheart’s birthstone is Aquamarine or Bloodstone.

Curious to know the complete list of birthstone? Read my other post “Birthstone. Give your sweetheart the correct one”

So what present I gave her?

The story of English conceals symbolic items such as coins, ring, and thimbles inside their birth cakes gave me a brilliant idea. I ordered a medium size fruit Jell-O with personalized messages put inside it and had it delivered to her office.

She ate it without realizing the Jell-O was supposed her birthday cake and the present was some messages found inside the Jell-O. She loved it. She called me, said it’s the silliest birthday present she ever had but she love every messages in it.

Hmm…who said present should be costly and expensive to win her hearts? If you let her know that we put every effort in making it she will know it. If we take pain making it she will feel it and realize she is special and will love you more.

Do you know English will conceal symbolic items such as gold coin, ring, and thimbles inside their birthday cakes? A person finding a gold coin in a birthday cake would supposedly become wealthy where a person discovering a thimble would never marry. Believe it or Not. It's up to you.

Happy Birthday sweetheart.

Online Dating Scam: How to avoid Those Yahoo Girls and Hotmail ladies

Do you think online dating scams only happen to those ladies looking for long term relationship? You are deadly wrong. It happens to everyone, especially YOU. Regardless your sexual orientation; if you are middle-aged male, you are on the romance scammer’s no. 1 favorite target list.

Middle aged males like you are more likely have higher incomes, more assets compared to your younger suitors and more desperate to attract potential mates. They know very well your weakness and they are expert at manipulating your feeling. All their concern about you is your willingness to open your heart to them and later on open your wallet.

If you are on online dating scene-always double your safety guard sense on alert before swimming in those deep wild love pool. I know—you may say: DON’T GIVE OUT personal data, No Telephone No., No address or Office address, and most importantly NO your bank accounts information to her before you’re really know her.

You are right. But one thing you must know is they are professional.

Do you believe the woman you’ve been emailing back and forth for months using yahoo free email service is really a woman? Or The Hotmail lady you’ve been IM-ing is a real potential mate? Mostly those woman and Hotmail ladies are actually professional male romance scammers who pose as women in order to seduce you.

They are able to do this because there are typically more male members in most online dating services and also because most of the communication is conducted via emails and Instant Messaging. If they have to, the romance scammers will hire a female voice to talk to you.

There are more than 8 scenarios these scammers use to seduce you to bite their bait but I will list 2 most recognized scenarios only as below:

1. Online Matching Dating service scenario
These romance scammers target YOU by posting fake profiles and tend to hide behind beautiful photographs. They will claim they are from USA, UK, or Europe countries and are working abroad on short term project.

They seek quickly to establish contact then set about establishing intimacy, declaring love, and expressing strong desire to be physically with their victims. They usually work in a group and know how to push your sentimental button.

Victims are conned to believe that they have found their soul mate and wedding are on the way, at last! What the victims do not know is they are exploiting their dreams, ambition and love with the wedding offer.

Watch out those Yahoo women Hotmail ladies, especially from West Africa (especially Nigeria), Western Europe, Thailand and Philippines.


2. Mail Order Brides Scenario
Eastern Europe romance scammers tend to use the Mail Order Bride services to scam their victims. These ladies are attractive and quickly establish and declare to their victims that these poor guys are their soul mate and their dream partner.

But before the victims could claim their future wife, they must pay her passport, fiancée visa, ticket, and a huge sum of money in order to make her fly to the victims places. Needless to say, this thing never materialized. The victims always left with empty wallet and more broken hearted than ever.

Watch out those mail order brides from Russia.

To fight these scammers US federal law enforcement agencies has build a website to help combat these cyber romance outlaw. Check it here http://www.lookstoogoodtobetrue.com/

One last word, once online dating security issues arise, please use your head to judge, not your DICK

Every Day I love you, and How not to lose the charm of it

Do you the kind who says it everyday? Stop doing that right now. I don’t recommend it since those 3 words will eventually lose its power and you will fail to charm her anymore.

Once saying I love you becomes your habit, it will have no effect on her since she might think that you say it out of habit and you do not really mean it. Your genuine action will be questioned. To make it worse she will wonder if you still care about her or really ever LOVE her as you said it.

Therefore, if you are sincere and really mean the way you say it. Not tell her so often, but show it. Action speaks louder than words. It roars. To show your true feeling, you have to show it by action and make her feel she is special.

The key here is to make it a surprise and originally yours.

For instance, instead of saying I love you before you leave for your office; why don’t you wake earlier and make her a love shape scramble eggs with a cup of coffee for breakfast? Or give her a long squeezing hug and a quick naughty peck on her lips?

Make her feel everyday special.
Complement her on her cooking; tell her how amazing she is in her favorite gown and make any reasons and opportunities to launch a surprise love attacks without saying it.

Do I mean we don’t need to say I Love you to our sweet heart anymore? No. Don’t misunderstand me. My point here is not to overuse it. Express it with more creative ways to spice up our romance life otherwise our love life will eventually dry up by the same old routines day by day.

If you are dying to say it to your sweet heart why don’t you make a creative way to express your true color of your feeling? Remember sometimes, a simple action, will win her heart.

Here are few creative and romantic ideas from Oprah’s romance guru you may start experimenting right away. But remember; inject your personality in those ideas. Make it simply yours.

How to say I love you without saying it # Idea No. 1
Buy a stylish hand mirror and give it to your partner as gift. Include a card in the box saying:
“In this mirror you will see the image of the most beautiful woman in the world”.

How to say I love you without saying it # Idea No. 2
If your partner has to work late, take a lunch box and fill it with some of her favorite things such as chocolate, herbal tea, cookies, and a small teddy bear.
Next, get a piece of paper and write:

“Michelle’s Late Night Survival Pack”

Draw a big red cross below this and stick the paper to the top of the box. Tell your partner to open the box when things get really tough.

Do you like the idea?
Make sure you check Michael Webb’s e-book for more romantic idea to express your feeling to her.

Tips To Improve Your Appearance

To succeed with women you must know the important of cultivating the right kind of personality to her, turning up sexual aura and transform the right message to her.

But to do this you can not just rely on your personality. You have to combine your personality with your appearance. Your appearance is really important especially true if you were not Brad Pitt.

Here what you have to do to make your appearance at the top notch.
1. Improve your posture.
Standing straight with shoulder widen will send the message that you are strong man with strong sexual appetite. Women always attracted to big well developed shoulder and your ass. Yes, your ass is your asset. It does count.

2. Smile
Yes. It is easy to smile. Just stretch your lips and show your teeth and you are smiling. But it is not the kind of grinning smile I meant here. You have to be able to smile naturally. When you smile naturally, your eyes will reflect the warmth of your personality and this is very contagious and as a result she will smile back to you.

3. Be fashionable
Pay attention on the clothes you wear. It does not necessary to be expensive and latest fashion. The importance is to wear stylish outfits that fit your particular body frame and coloring.

4. Body Hygiene and Grooming
Grooming yourself and make sure you have proper body hygiene. Dragon’s breath? Get rid of. Shaving, shower regularly and don’t forget to put on deodorant. If you appear as a slob you are likely to attract snobbish women as well. If you groom and present yourself as attractive man, you well get attractive women you deserve.

Men Tips: What does woman want in Single Scene?

It is not about us. Not about what we guy wants now. But about what they want.
We are simple and predictable but women are not. They are complete and unpredictable; we have to sink into their head and heart to understand them. They really come from other planet, Venus.

Women are very finicky about their men. They know exactly what they want and have one-track mind when it comes to find the potential partner. They play the love game cautiously that is why it becomes more important to us to know what they want to keep up with them in the love scene.

Otherwise most guys won’t survive in the love scene – the fittest and the best of male species apply.

Like men, women also have physical and behavioral turn-ons as the other sex is concerned. They are turn on by man’s well developed shoulders and by sensitivity in a man. Attractive looks are also important for them as strong and sexually attractive body always goes with health and strong immune system.

Below are few lists of things women find it turn on in men
1. Wealth and Status
They want to feel secure that you could provide the best home, health, and the chances of surviving for both mother and their offspring.

2. Best Feature as a sexy gait
We don’t need to be look like Brat Pritt or a model. Pheww—Thanks God. It’s good news, isn’t it? How many Brad Pritt in this world, anyway.

They are often attracted to a man who has a single good feature that they think important. It is often the best feature as a sexy gait. They are turned on by the men who know how to walk in a sexy manner that gives out the fit-to-reproduce signal, for instances.

3. Muscle.
Women aren’t all turned on by big muscle like weightlifter or bodybuilder look but they are all like to see a well-toned arm, shoulder and chest muscle in their men. Women find big well developed shoulder a big turn on as to us, turned on by their cup-size. Do you know, those muscle are equivalent of their cleavage?

Oh, Boy. Let’s hit back to the gym!

4. Hygiene plays the role.
Smelly business plays important role. Watch our dragon breath. Sex with woman does not go well if our breath is foul.

5.Articulate.
Being articulate, speaking correctly and having a sense of humor and artistic sense is important. Women love her man who is able to express his love often to her in many attractive ways including reciting his original love poetry. They love their men to be courteous, considerate, and good listener.

6. Self-Confident.
Women really want a man who is self-confident and believes he has the strength to solve problems and capable to provides a happy and successful life to his family and does not feel threatened by other strong and self-confident women.

7. Able to answer their need.
Even the most independent women are dependent on men. While women boast of being feminist, they haven’t changed from generations where men needed to complete them, and for their survival. Women are programmed to feel dependent on men.

Even though women today are doing well financially, they still feel that they can’t survive on their own without a man. Here you come to their answer if you could give out signal that you could protect them.

But, if you are only an average Joe, how could you impress her? The answer is being her ideal man. You know what turn them on and if you play it right she will want to display their legs and breasts to you.

Reading Body Language

Body language is a discipline about non-verbal behavior, one of the most powerful, private and quite language because it helps you understand emotions and feelings of people around you.

Body language is one of the most important languages to learn because after you know how to interpret the behavior of others you will know what they really think.

Reading and interpreting body language is an art and science. She makes every action with a purpose and it expresses something. Therefore, it is very important to discover reading body language, signals, smiles, gestures.

Maybe you have a friend, a girl one, and you want to know if she is interested in you, or it is a girl that you like and you do not know how to approach her, or just you meet her in a club and she looks interested in you, learn to read her body language to know her feelings. You can see exactly what a woman thinks by reading her body language, pay attention to the signs, read them and use them to your advantage.

Women's body language is very subtle so you should know to read it. Let us say that she is a girl that you really like and you meet her at a party. Watch her closely as soon as you get a sign that she is interested in you too, to make sure that you catch her with your charm.

You can find out her thoughts and feelings by reading the signs:

* watch her head toss, if she throw her hair over her shoulders and show off her neck, it means that she want to attract attention

* if she pushes her fingers throw her hair means that she really love to be conquered

* she looks into your eyes with deep interest means that she wants to meet you better

* while talking to you, she blinks more than usual, fluttering her eyelashes

* if she get nervous while you are looking at her means that she is a little shy, but she has interest in you

* her skin tone becomes red while being around you

* big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face

* she bumps into you and touches you accidentally means that she wanted to be sure that you sow her

* she is dressed very sexy , to show her nipples underneath and she is fixing her outfit to make herself look better, means that she is friendly and free

* also, the most appealing position for men is a woman sitting with one leg pressed against the other, placing one hand on her thigh, it's surely a clear call for attention

* if her pupils dilated when she is looking at you means that she likes you

* she shows her shoulders, legs or feet means that she is comfortable with the surroundings and with you

* raises eyebrows while talking is a sign of attraction

* when you talk with her if she is looking at your mouth while talking and smiles at every slick thing you try to say, you definitely caught her

* if she bites her lips often means that she is nervous and you better stop staring at her

* also, if she sits with her arms crossed together she is very angry and she don't want to have nothing with you at the moment

* if she touches the edge of the glass with her fingers, is an sexual sign, it is a sign of intrinsic calmness, self control and waiting to sit by her

* another sign that she is interested in you is if she plays with her jewelries while you are passing over her, especially with stoking and pulling motions

If the girl you like gives you this signs that she is interested in you too, do not lose time and make the first step to catch her. Learn to hold eye contact longer than her, show her that you are not afraid and do not look away until she does. Use a confident voice tone - this turns women on.

Also, knowing reading body language can help you detect if a person is lying you:
- if she is not looking in your eyes directly while speaking
- is nervous and uncomfortable being with you
- she is saying different stories on different frames
- is extremely defensiveness

As you see, it is very important to know to read the women's body language, even if you want to attract one, even if you have already a girlfriend to know which her feelings for you are.

About the Author : Ovi Dogar
By the way, a beautiful Romanian woman is waiting for you at www.eBridex.com

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Editor Comments :
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Sure, you will be reading more body language signs she deliberately shows you if you were Brad Pritt. If you are like me, the average Joe, those things do not happen until you make it.

To learn more about it, keep checking this blogs to find other tips
To Ovi Dogar, thanks

Be the Most Romantic Guy in the World (Part 2 of 2)

Rose petals shower surprise attack!

All she wants is frequently being told that she is loved and showed that she is special. Especially from us-guy who she loves. She wants romance from us while we are not naturally romantic, aren’t we?

In order to be the romantic guy she wants – I copied several ideas from Michael Webb “101 romantic idea” e-book. My favorite is rose petals shower surprise attacks.

For every other day I had been practicing those idea and gained her vote as the most romantic guy in the world and I like to share with you here.

Try out any of these creative rose petals surprise attack. But be personal and unique; always combine these ideas with your own creativity. You don’t want get caught by her using 100% idea from Michael Webb.

If you read any of his e-book — you could be sure she may already read it too. Michael Webb is so famous and all media had been calling him as America’s Romance Expert and Oprah Romance Expert.

Below are several ideas from my favorite rose petals surprise attacks.
1. Put on top of ceiling fan
2. Use as packing material for a gift
3. Put in pocket, purse, briefcase as a clue of something special coming up
4. Bring some to restaurant and put on table
5. Sprinkled in a packed lunch
6. Sew or hot glue onto lingerie
7. Write out message with petals
8. Inside envelope with card or letter
9. Floating it in a bowl of water with or without floating candles
10. Put in the book your sweat heart is reading
11. Surround her with petals while she is sleeping
12. Tossed into a roaring fire – enjoy the scene.

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Be the Most Romantic Guy in the World (Part 1 of 2)

How to be romantic and be able to express your love and your deepest feeling, in verbally and in action?

I have to struggle – I have to admit that I’m not a very verbal guy who constantly says “I love you” to someone I love, especially to the women I’m now with. During our four years relationship, I rarely utter those 3 words to her. She has to make me said it, you know --- with her sex bait ;)

It‘s not because I don’t love her—it’s just those words wouldn’t come out. It dries up at the tip of my tongue. I didn’t feel it should be a problem to us since we’d been together that long and I thought she accepted me for who I am.

But I was wrong. Suddenly I felt, she were slipping apart day after day and were not happy as she was. This really bothered me.

At that point I decided I must do something to save our love. I took out my secret saving and bought her a ring with tiny diamond. And to my surprised, she returned it and crying, said that all she wanted was to be told frequently that she is loved and showed that she is special. She wanted romance from the guy she loves. That is ME.

Lesson learned. But how could a 34 years old guy be a romantic in one night? For me, it is not natural for men to be romantics. Certainly, not me.

Here, what I did, try to be a romantic guy she wants.
Every other day at the unexpected moment, I attacked her with rose petals surprises. She loved it and I was rewarded with greatest sex and she voted me the most romantic guy in the world.

Below is what I did:
I bought a pack of red rose petal and placed them behind the sun visor on the passenger side of her car. I wrote a note “I LOVE YOU” and stuck it to the back of the sun visor.

I know she would pull down the sun visor to check on her make up. And once she finally did pull down the sun visor, she was showered by her favorite red rose petals and she saw the note.

I knew it worked. She called me once she arrived at her office and said how she liked being attacked.

Come on---It doesn’t sound like me.
Okay. Let me share this little secret with you, but you must promise not to let her know. It’s just between us - guys. Okay?

I copied the idea from an e-book called “101 romantic ideas” by Michael Webb, Oprah romance expert. He gave me this e-book for free. If you want this 101 romantic ideas e-book, drop me a line and I will send it to you FREE

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PerfectMatch.com : A Detail Online Dating Reviews

Editor’s Rating: *** ( 3/ 5 stars )

Editor’s Comments:
PerfectMatch is simply not a typical online dating service you find. It takes dating seriously and has unique approach to help each individual to find qualified single seeking for long term relationship. Its DUET compatibility test which allows you to choose your matches based on personality test which is more defined than other of its kind. Thus resulting fewer but more qualified matches. If you are ready for quality not quantity—PerfectMatch is for you.

Company:
http://www.PerfectMatch.com

Motto/Slogan:
The better, smarter way to find your perfect Match.

Members:
Over 5,000,000 members with 35% male/ 65% female ratio.

Categories:
Matchmaking – long term relationship for heterosexual and same sex singles.

Countries:
USA and Canada and other major countries

Free membership:
Yes. 7 days free trial. Free to create profile and upload photos, free to search and browse profile, and you can even send ice breaker to member up to 4 times each section. But you have to subscribe to send email or receive email message.

Profile Set Up:
Personality profile is pretty detail and may take up more than 30 minutes to complete all 4 steps.
Step 1: About Me
The first step is very standard. You’ll be asked about almost everything from name, date of birth, and your address, relationship type you are seeking: men or women, your appearance, education, and your life style.

Step 2: Background and values.
This step consists of series of questionnaires and statements which you could choose one or multiple predetermined that will create sharper profile detail thus will give a clearer picture of who you are to your prospective perfect match.

Step 3: Deal Breaker
Like step 2 – you’ll be asked to answer several questionnaires and statement with predetermined answers. This is the chance for you to dig deeper and focus on what you are seeking in your perfect match. What quality she must have and must not.

Step 4: DUET test
You’ll have 8 pages of test and mostly are true or false questions. Each page puts emphasis on 1 factor to make successful relationship. Upon completing the DUET test, PerfectMatch.com will provide you with similar test results and show you which personality are similar to your type and show you with percentage value of members who match your type.

Search Capability:
Searching through PerfectMacth.com is easy enough. PerfectMatch.com provides 4 types of searches. You could start by hitting personality search which will yield profiles based on emotional, temperament, power nature and flexibility.

Doing quick search will yield you more matches with general qualifications. If you are picky you could hit PerfectMatch’s customized search like search by age range or location. You have another choice to use, keywords search to give you ability to narrow your matches.

Compatibility Analysis:
Dr. Pepper Swartz’s compatibility test does not just match people simply based on their similar character traits, similar likes or dislikes but it does give you complete personality types and explain to you which traits your match should have and which and why should be different to ensure you and your match have an effective romantic love life.

Dr. Pepper Swartz DUET test provides members with more than 30 years of solid scientific research experience in assisting singles to find their real love and commitment.

Special Features:
A lot attractive features but very standard in sense of most dating services provide same stuff.

Site Navigation:
Site design and lay out is attractive. Navigation within PerfectMatch.com is a simple task except for some unfamiliar icons. You have to guess what those icons will lead you when you click it. Fortunately, it is easy to get back once you get lost.

Safety :
Decent. Safe, anonymous, and secure communication

Help and Support:
Answer to any concerns promptly within 2 hours as compared to standard 24 hours policy. The biggest help comes in form of positive feedback and suggestion on how to make your profile stand out and be uniquely yours from crowds.

Sitemaps is so effective. You could jump around to find answer quickly.

Like:
I appreciate the help and suggestion from PerfectMatch on setting up more effective profile. They seem to know that the success of PerfectMatch is based on their effort to find perfect match for its members. Good jobs.

Dislike:
Hm…If there is any, I think it will be easy to overlook it

Do I recommend it?
Yes. Why not.

The Art of Flirting With Humor

Make Creative Misinterpretations
Be alert and have your eyes open when you are approaching women. Look for details in her appearance or what she is doing that you can safely makes jokes about. You do this by putting a new spin on something normal.

But be careful, you should try to make your interpretations complimentary to her. For instance, misinterpreting the women collecting the money as you leave a parking lot as “parking goddess” would be more effective than interpreting her as , say, a trash collector who got lucky and got her current job.

The first one is a joke, the second is an insult.

Smile and Say, “Hi”
Smile is contagious. Do smile a lot when you approach a woman to flirt. It’s best to be relaxed, make eyes contact, smile and don’t forget to say, “Cheeezzee…”. No, don’t do it, I’m just kidding. Just say “Hi” instead.

When you smile and are relaxed, she will see it on your face and in your eyes

Ask Them about Thing They Know
Ask them about work related questions or about personal appearance. One good line to start with is “What’s story behind that…?”

For instance, she is wearing an unique dress, you might say “What a beautiful dress you are wearing. What the story behind it?”

Do Ask Questions
It’s always a good idea to ask questions. After all, you want to know about her, and asking the right questions can give you important information. But remember, it is not an interrogation. Don’t badger her with questions, but do make inquiries about what she cares about

For instance, if she is holding a flower, ask her about it: “That rose you are holding is beautiful. Why do you pick rose?” Or you could ask :” Why do you think women love flowers?”

Either way, you are engaging her through your questions in a conversation that about her likes, her dislikes, and her feeling. This kind of conversation could become more romantic later on.

Describe Feelings for Her
Have you ever been with someone who was describing something disgusting, for example about his sickness in intimate detail and you start to get sick too? These people are using a simple principle of describing feeling that make you experience that feeling.

Your goal in flirting is to get her think romantic thought about you and want to act on those thoughts. You must describe the feeling you want her to have - romance, attraction, arousal – in lush and lavish details. Whether she wants to feel the feeling you are describing or not, she must feel it to even know what you are talking about.

For instance, approach the woman behind the pastry counter, you may say: “I can imagine you must feel so great and special behind counter, goddess of the whole store and people come to worship you”.

Romantic Idea # 3
On a special occasion, buy your partner eleven real red roses and one artificial red rose. Place the artificial rose in the center of bouquet. Attach a card that says: “I will love you until the last rose fades”

Source : 101 Romantic idea's Michael Webb

eHarmony.com : A Detail Online Dating Reviews

Editor’s Rating: *** ( 3.5 / 5 stars )

Editor’s Comments:
eHarmony, without doubt, is the most unique dating site online. They are serious about their task to make you “fall in love for the right reasons” and thousand couples did get married with their scientific structured approach to online dating.

This approach gains approval from many experts and then vote eHarmony highly. But despite their successful method, I would not recommend this site to everyone. It’s only for you if:
1. You have tried in and out many dating sites without success
2. You are looking for serious relationship and ready to commit to a new life
3. Still believe there is still someone out there for you.
4. Ready to invest your time, money and lastly your patience.

In general this site is for shy men or not very communicative since their system will help you.

Company:
http://www.eHarmony.com

Motto/Slogan:
Fall in love for the right reasons.

Members:Over 8,000,000 members with 42% male/ 58% female ratio, mostly aged 30 - 39 years old.

Categories:
Matchmaking –serious long term relationship for heterosexual singles.

Countries:
USA

Free membership:
Yes. 7 days free trial. Free to fill personality test and receive matches but can’t initiate contact. You’ve been warned! If you are looking for casual dating-forget this site. Don’t ever even think to take their trial membership or you’ll end up with bad taste in your mouth.

Profile Set Up:
Grab a cup of coffee or tea or whatever beverage you like, and don’t forget a couple of aspirin. ;) I’m not kidding about it. Ok! May be the aspirin part but surely you will need something ready to drink while setting up almost 500 questionnaires of the most comprehensive personality profile of all the online dating sites. It will takes you about 2 hours to complete all the questionnaires. It digs deep, no deeper and deeper to your inner self.

The good news is: they are not as difficult as your S.A.T test so you may ignore the aspirin

The bad news: after the test done. Hopefully you will not find yourself in horrible shock to find eHarmony telling you that you are “emotionally unhealthy” and refuses service to you. In order words, you are not qualified to their membership. Oh—boy! Choosy!

Search Capability:
Very rigid structure. eHarmony doesn’t offer you freedom to search preferences like some dating sites do. Instead eHarmony holds your hand through out the process step by step and won’t let you travel alone in the cold-single-world searching for basket full apples and then sort and threw out the rotten apples to single out your soul mate. Eharmony offers one or two apples, peeled, seasoned and ready to be eaten – sorry, to church.

I personally find the lack of search matches capability tool, too limited and annoying. But I must admit that their firm structured matching method does their job very well. It delivers profiles, not much but amazingly fit.

Compatibility Analysis:
eHarmony is the leader of the pack in term of compatibility analysis. eHarmony maching system, I must say, is nearly flawless. The matches are not automatically done by computer base on data you put in but through lengthy and exhaustive questionnaires that help compatible match. eHarmony also excels in delivering current, unique, and updated single profiles.

Special Features:
Don’t expect instant messaging, chat rooms, casual browsing, or more advance service like video clips voice. All you have is 4-structural emails communication.
You have to go through all 4 steps before you can communicate any topic you like or seeing off-line.

Structure 1
Contains multiple choice questions you should ask at the beginning of the relationship. You choose 5 characters, relationship orientation and personality from the list and send it to your matches to answer. Your contact does the same in return

Structure 2
You send your second structural emails with your MUST HAVE and MUST HAVE NOT list to your matches. During the process if you find that the answers do not suit you—both of you may end this communication at any time and you both will not be able to communicate further.

Structure 3
You send three open-ended questions which you can select from predetermined questions or you may step a little further by writing your own.

Structure 4
It’s open communication. You may freely communicate with any topics with your matches.

During the initial 4 structural emails communication-you are allowed to attach your personal picture with your email on your first email immediately or just wait until you are ready to expose yourself. The freedom is totally yours.

Site Navigation:
Fast (63% of the sites are slower - Alexa.com)
Well organized, easy and user friendly.

Safety :
You have all the control over the privacy and your most personal profile and photos. Your identity remains confidential until you reveal yourself to your matches. Spamming is not an issue since you are force to communicate through eHarmony’s communication system.

Help and Support:
You’ll find almost your questions on their FAQs page. Emails support is generally great

Like:
A fair amount of male and female ratio with pre-screened matches profiles. This action weed out 90% of non-matched profiles

Dislike:
Forced membership. As a paying member I would like to be granted with the ability to communicate with my match whether she is a paying member or non-paying member. Ouch, very pricky issue.

Do I recommend it?
Yes. It works. If you don’t mind their structured and rigid communication, I can’t find out the reason you should not join it.

How to Overcome Fear of Rejection

The simple answer is, don’t worry about it. Another best way to overcome fear of rejection was to see that it wasn't going to actually happen.

Here are a few ideas for overcoming our own FEAR of rejection:

1. Watch and Learn.
Go out to a bar, and watch how other men approaching women and you will soon find out that most the time, even if the woman isn’t interested, nothing bad happens.

She usually just says, “I have a boy friend” or No, Thank you” or just walk away without saying anything at all.

But you will also notice that if guys who are approaching women by trying to grab a woman who's walking by, making a crude sexual comment, or just keeps talking when a woman isn't interested, that the woman's feelings might escalate and she'll respond negatively.

You can watch and learn what works and what doesn't right in front of your own eyes.

2. Start small.
If you have to, start by talking to women who are PAID to talk to you. For instances; go to a mall and walk into every store, and start conversations with salesgirls.

Practice making eye contact. Ask the salesgirls to smell you—oops sorry, I meant the new cologne, the one you sprayed on your wrist, or demand her opinion about the new shampoo you intend to buy and give you her opinion.

The more you do this, the more you'll get used to starting conversations with women you don't know, and having comfortable conversations.

3) By failing to plan, you are planning to fail
You really need to plan and figure out things you can do or words you should say to start a conversation with women. Once you get the idea, mentally rehearse it until you could do it in any situation. Then go out and practice it


ROMANTIC IDEA # 1
If your partner is going away for few days, tell her that you are worried about her so you have organized a bodyguard to look after her. Then give her a small teddy bear
Quoted from 101 romantic idea by Michael Webb

Reasons Why We Get Rejected by Women

We all HATE “rejection”.
The idea of walking up to a woman and having her reject us causes us to instantly feel sick in the pit of our dick – oops sorry, in our stomach.

Most of us find this situation so horrible that we may end up deciding to forget about approaching the women just to end the discomfort. The temptation to walk away as quickly as the intense nervousness is triggered by the moment we decide to act. It goes away when we decide to forget it and walk away.

We must deal with the fear of rejection or we may end up with no woman in our life.
But how do we deal with it. The answer is simple.

Don’t worry about it. If we get rejected, we’ll be fine. If it doesn’t kill us, it makes us stronger. Really.

It’s not a big deal and I believe it doesn’t happen that often. When it does happen, we’ll recover shortly thereafter. I found myself telling about it to my colleagues about it and laughing it together. Rejection from women is about as painful as getting a “D” on test.

There are few main reasons why we get rejected.

1. We don’t pay attention and begin with something stupid.
You can’t just walk up to a woman, put your arm around her, and say, “Hey baby, you sure look hot tonight”. Or following a woman around all night, staring at her constantly, then walking over with a nervous, sweaty-palmed, stalkerish look and saying, “you remind me of---“.
These are bad idea

2. Don’t know when we should stop.
Imagine this, two women are sitting alone at a table in the corner and one of them is obviously upset. And you walk over to them and say, "Hi, can I buy you a drink?"...

And the upset one looks at you and says, "No thanks, we're in the middle of a conversation" (then looks away from you back at her friend)...

And you say, "Aw, cummon, have a drink. You need to lighten up and have some fun"... and she looks back at you and says firmly, "We're busy"...

And you say, "What, are you in a bad mood or something? I'm just trying to buy you a drink"... and she says, "We don't want a drink"... and you say, "Well maybe your friend does"... and the friend says, "No, I don't want one either"...

OK, hopefully you get it.
Don’t ever do something like that. Are you a big dumb ass or something?
You sure will go home with finger marks on you face and have 1 or 2 drinks throw in your pants.

3. Making a woman nervous with your body language.
If you start talking to a woman, but your posture is weak and slumped, your eyes are darting around but not meeting hers, and you're wearing an unbuttoned flannel shirt with one of the tails tucked in, you're probably not going to get a favorable response.

If you creep a woman out, things aren't going to work for you.

4. Not understanding a woman's body language and other communication.
When you start talking to a woman, she will let you know within a very short time if she's
receptive to talking to you.

If you've been reading too many books that say "A woman will signal her availability and interest by flipping her hair, licking her lips, and cocking her head coyly at you", then get over it.

This stuff happens to you if you were Brat Pitt. If it DOES happen to you, then skip this part.

When you first start talking to a woman she's either going to keep talking to you in an open, comfortable way or she's not.

She's either going to act like things are cool or she's going to act like they're not.
This is an amazing thought, but women get nervous too. They will often stop talking just
Because they can't think of anything to say, etc.

But you need to pay attention. Experience is the best teacher here.

Also read “How to overcome the fear of Rejection”

Source :David DeAngelo Marketing Inc.,