Popular Online Dating Activities For Men

Heads up, gents. Online dating can open up new doors of opportunities with a little help from real world dating tips that work. Spice up your matchmaking with some of these ideas.

Looks Count
Comment on how attractive she is. Yes, women do want to know they are pretty, even if they’re online and you can’t see them and have no idea. So in your communications, ask questions that would help you know, but in an unobtrusive way like – how do you wear your hair? And then say how attractive that must look.

Kindness Counts
Point out nice things or the lemonade in life – nice things the other person has mentioned, nice acts the person has done, good things on the news latterly, etc. Be upbeat, and forget those lemons in life. Even in email a person can shout, by using all capital letters. So show manners and kindness. Keep swearing, unkind remarks, prejudice, etc. out of your communications. And “do unto others….”

So add some helpful real-world tips that do work (a lot of the time anyway) into your online dating equations. And come up on the positive side of romance – and enjoy more lemonade!

Online Dating Tip: Ask the Right Questions First

OK. You have joined a couple of dating services and written a killer profile. You’ve uploaded a good picture and now you are going to chat with a contact. What now? How do you start separating those who have real potential and those who don’t have any potential at all? You need to find out something about who this strange woman really is and not just who she wants you to believe she is. It would be nice if women wore labels like “Gold Digger” or “Daddy’s girl”….but they don’t so it’s up to you to find these things out and you can’t just ask direct questions. You need to know what mistakes you can avoid making and how to impress this lady if you decide you want to do that.

After you are past the initial small talk, ask her, “What are the biggest mistakes guys make when dating online?” Listen carefully to her answers. She’s going to tell you a lot about herself and her views on men in general.

Next you should ask her, “What do you really think about online dating?” Now she will tell you if she has had any bad experiences dating o line and help you to avoid making the same things wrong.

Now for the all-important one…..”What caused the break up in your last relationship?” If she puts all the blame on the guy, you should probably move on to the next prospect. If she takes all the blame herself, you should probably do the same. If she says the breakup was by mutual consent or that the relationship just wasn’t right for either of them, you’ve heard the right answer. Move forward but always with caution.

Asking the right questions will give you insight and make you more confident when you meet the lady for the first time.

A Man's Secrets to Successful Online Dating

People have taken to online dating like a duck takes to water…because it works…or, at least, it can work. Women are, in general, terrified of meeting a man that she has been chatting with online. All they have heard about are the scary things that can happen…and, I must say, they have a right to be careful to the extreme. That’s not only wise but vital. So what’s a nice guy to do? You aren’t a pervert, a sexual predator, or a weirdo. You are just a nice guy looking for “the” girl for you.

You must be patient. Don’t press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives. Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online. Don’t try to rush her into meeting face-to-face. She will think you are desperate or a pervert. Patience. Patience. Patience.

Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and job. A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deceit. Eventually she will find out the truth anyway and there you are back at square one.

A picture really is worth a thousand words. Post many pictures of yourself doing your everyday activities and make them full body shots, not just head shots. If you were dating a girl in the real world she wouldn’t just see your head.

Once the discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during daylight hours and that she bring a friend with her. After all, you have nothing to hide. You’ve told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you. The only thing left is to make her feel safe meeting you.

Growing Online Dating Relationships

Just like regular real-world relationships, online relationships need tending, to grow over time. Here are some quick growing tips.

1. Take time and make time. Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each other’s time with respect. If it’s lacking, might mean time to move on.

2. Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So don’t rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.

3. Respect each others privacy. Don’t share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence.

4. Share special online and offline fun times. Online – send greeting cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest. Offline- if you’re exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).

Tend your online relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow.

Establishing Online Dating Relationships: Safety First

Online dating can be fun. But don’t neglect safety and common sense when you try to hook up with a mate. At minimum, take caution in the following areas.

Protect Your Computer

Take care of your equipment and systems before you head out into the Internet realm. You need to have a firewall and anti-virus protection for your email and for when you search websites and interact online. At the bare minimum, you may want these two solutions that are offered at no charge to home computer users (i.e. not for commercial use):

Free Firewall Download: ZoneAlarm www.zonelabs.com
Free Anti-Virus Download: AVG Anti-Virus www.grisoft.com

Protect Yourself

Take care of yourself, too, by choosing appropriate dating sites. Seek and choose a reputable online dating service. How? Begin by asking around with friends, neighbors, co-workers and others you may know who have tried online dating, and see which places they recommend. In addition, search “online dating services” and keep a notebook of their URLs or website links, the fees, rules and regulations, complete contact information of each and any other useful information that spikes your interest. Then compare each place. Try only those places where you feel safe. Avoid the others.

So take care. Arm your computer – and yourself- with the correct tools and knowledge!

Online Dating Safety For Men

Almost everything you read about online dating safety is directed at women but men need to be concerned as well. Perverts, sexual predators and weirdoes come in sexes, all sizes, and all ages…as do, liars and cheaters. So men need to stay on guard, too.

It is common knowledge not to readily give out personal information to strangers. The reason for not doing so is as large as the number of strangers who want that information. If you come across a person who is giving out personal information and asking others to do the same, don’t do it. You don’t know what they want to use it for….and you had better believe they want to use it for something. That “something” will not be for your benefit. Men, also, need to guard their real names, addresses, phone numbers, and place of employment. Do not give that information to anyone online until you are confident that they are who they say they are.

Men, be wary of women who seem too financially needy. If they ask for money, in any of a dozen ways women can ask for money, cut the relationship off immediately. They are not looking for love or even friendship….they are looking for financial help.

If a woman gives you a contact number but you cannot ever reach her at that number, beware. If you always have to page them or text them and have them call you back, this could be a sign that what they are telling you is not the complete truth.

A need to get married and insecurity are other signs men should be very wary of. If the woman is pushing too hard for a commitment you aren’t ready to make, it might be a good time to head for the nearest exit.

Online Dating is Not a Contest

Online dating is not a competition between competing males for the attention of a female. Grow up. Change your mind set from “winning” to “searching”. This isn’t high school. You are all grown up and have been for quite some time, now.

Your attitude is the most important asset you have. You should like yourself and not concentrate of all of the things that aren’t YOUR idea of the perfect guy…the one the all women want.

What is that women want, you ask? That’s the age old question. Being of the female persuasion myself, I can tell you a few things women want and don’t want.

Women want a man to be confident…NOT an arrogant jerk. There’s a big difference. You need to like yourself and not be self depreciating but you don’t need to come across like you believe that you are a gift to them from God and have just fallen from the sky. They don’t want you to think that THEY just fell from heaven and are some kind of perfect being, either. They can’t live up to that expectation.

Women want a communicator. The “strong silent type” really isn’t appealing at all. They think you probably don’t have an original thought in your head and you probably haven’t heard a word they said, either or that you just don’t care what they said or didn’t even hear what they said. They want you to be interesting enough to want to know more about you and they want you to think that they are interesting enough to ask intelligent questions about what is important to them, too.

Women do NOT want to be a prize to be won. They don’t want to be a trophy. They want to be the ONE woman that you want to be with.

Online Dating Can Be Tough

Here’s a little secret that those of the female persuasion keep from us guys: Women, even very beautiful women, like to be approached by a confident and interesting man. Are you surprised? It’s true…and confident and interesting are much more important than looks to ladies of all ages, too. That’s true for internet dating, as well as, dating in your brick and mortar world but we’re talking about internet dating here…so back to the subject at hand.

Once you have joined an online dating service, you will find that there a lot more men than women and that the men are much more likely to browse profiles and make initial contacts than women. Yes, it’s a woman’s world…still. It’s “traditional” for men to make the first move. It always has been and it always will be. Some things never change. That’s why your profile and picture are so important.

Remember…confident and interesting….and that does not translate to cocky and self-centered. It’s important that your profile lets people know that you have friends you care about and that you are passionately interested in a variety of things…not JUST sports. Another thing about that all-important profile….please don’t start it with, “I’m the guy your mama warned you about”.

You will have just shot yourself in the foot with that line. Another one to never use is, “I could be the man of your dreams”. The lady HOPES you are but she will be the judge of that…so don’t insult her intelligence. Remember….exude confidence and interesting and you will find that lady you have been looking for…or she will find you.

Won’t it be nice to have the ladies contacting you instead of you having to do everything? If you write a great profile that stands out in the crowd, that will happen.

Nice Guys Do It, Too!

I’m talking about online dating, of course. When the phenomenon of online dating sites started several years ago, they were a haven for perverts, sexual predators, nerds, and weirdoes of assorted varieties.

That is just no longer the case. All the stigma of online dating is gone. Online dating has gone main stream and is, not only acceptable, but expected. Online dating has become the primary tool of single people of all ages to generate an interesting and rewarding social life.

Let’s face it…we are busy guys. We just simply do not have the time, the energy, or the financial where-with-all to date several nights each week while we look for the “one”. You can sort through hundreds of profiles in a month for less money than you would spend on one evening out, thus, saving time and money. We use the internet to save ourselves time and money for a lot of things like investments, shopping, medical information, and communications.

Why not make use of such a useful tool for our social and personal lives as well? You could find the love of your life. At the very least, you will meet some interesting people and possibly make some lasting friendships. It’s easy to get started. All you need is a computer and an internet connection. You’ll need to search for online dating services that meet your specific needs. They are many and varied.

Join one or two. Then you’ll need to write a great profile, upload a recent picture of yourself and start making and answering contacts. That really is all there is to it…that and patience.

Don’t wait any longer to start your new and interesting social life. Miss or Ms. “Right” could be only a few clicks of the mouse away.

Growing Online Dating Relationships

Just like regular real-world relationships, online relationships need tending, to grow over time. Here are some quick growing tips.

1. Take time and make time. Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each other’s time with respect. If it’s lacking, might mean time to move on.

2. Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So don’t rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.

3. Respect each others privacy. Don’t share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence.

4. Share special online and offline fun times. Online – send greeting cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest. Offline- if you’re exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).

Tend your online relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow.

Online Dating For Single Men

No matter what your age, height, weight or physical appearance, there are thousands of women out there eager to meet you and eager for your company…whether short-term or long-term relationships are what you want.

If you have found yourself suddenly “on-the-market” again after a relationship has dissolved or are just too busy with your work to spend a lot of time looking for a lady to keep you company, online dating can open the door to the dating scene for you.

The good news is that all you need is a computer and an internet connection to get started. The first thing to do is find an online dating site that fits your needs.

There are the large sites that offer many extras like live video chat and even match you up with ladies using your profiles and, also, a lot of sites that cater to special interests like religious preferences, outdoor enthusiasts, gays, etc.

You need to choose one or two that will meet your needs. I don’t recommend the free sites. The paid sites have a money back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied and the investment is small. A whole month costs less than one dinner and movie date.

The next thing you need to do is write a killer, but honest, profile and upload a recent but flattering picture of yourself. Now you are all set. Start contacting ladies whose profiles sound interesting to you and answer any lady who contacts you…and do so promptly…not, however, on holidays or weekends.

You don’t want to appear that desperate. Don’t give up after a month and think you will never find the right lady for you. New people join online dating services daily and at least half of them are ladies many, of whom, will want to meet you.

A Man's Secrets to Successful Online Dating

People have taken to online dating like a duck takes to water…because it works…or, at least, it can work. Women are, in general, terrified of meeting a man that she has been chatting with online.

All they have heard about are the scary things that can happen…and, I must say, they have a right to be careful to the extreme. That’s not only wise but vital. So what’s a nice guy to do? You aren’t a pervert, a sexual predator, or a weirdo. You are just a nice guy looking for “the” girl for you.

You must be patient. Don’t press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives. Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online. Don’t try to rush her into meeting face-to-face. She will think you are desperate or a pervert. Patience. Patience. Patience.

Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and job. A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deceit. Eventually she will find out the truth anyway and there you are back at square one.

A picture really is worth a thousand words. Post many pictures of yourself doing your everyday activities and make them full body shots, not just head shots. If you were dating a girl in the real world she wouldn’t just see your head.

Once the discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during daylight hours and that she bring a friend with her. After all, you have nothing to hide. You’ve told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you. The only thing left is to make her feel safe meeting you.

Speed Dating: Solution for Busy People to Find Date?

Can’t find a date? Try speed dating.
It is not easy to find a date if you are an extreme workaholic professional who spends longer hours at office more often than spend few hours to get socialized. You are not loser who can’t find yourself a date. You are certainly not a pathetic lonely male either.

You just somehow seem can’t find extra time to squeeze to your already tight daily schedule. If it is happen to you. Try speed dating. Several online dating services are now offering speed dating service like Match.com or Udate.com and you may give them a try.

If you are not familiar with speed dating, here is what speed dating is about.

Speed dating is a dating system that is more formal than blind date whose purpose is to encourage people to meet a large number of new people. The event was held by a commercial organization or by online dating services to carter their members need.

This kind of service gained its popularity among singles in UK and USA in 2000’s. Some events specify and offer a more specific need of its members such as to gay community, to a big women admirers, book lovers, or interracial couples.

What does the organization do?
The organizations who hold the speed dating service usually arrange location, and activities to make men and women meet each other in very short time duration. It usually takes about 3 – 5 minutes for each personal to meet each other and than decide if they have mutual interest.

You will be seated on a very large table face to face and start introduce your self or talk whatever you like to the woman who seats in front of you. At the end of the short interval, the organizer will ring a bell or clink a glass to signal you to move on the next woman. You repeat the same procedure and talk to all the women participants in a limited time.

At the end of the event, all of you shall submit to the organizer a list of who you would like to provide your personal information such as your telephone number. If the organizer finds that there a match between you and her, your contact information will be forwarded to both of you.

You are not allowed to trade your contact information or request it during first initial meeting to avoid face-to face rejection.

These events typically require advance registration, often an online prepayment by credit card. However, they may accept a few walk-ins when needed to balance the gender ratio. Some services make use of waitlists when signing up to strive for exactly the same number of men and women, while others have a more "party" atmosphere and only aim for an approximately matching number.

Pros:
1. Cost efficient.
Meet numerous women just for one price. You have a broad opportunity to meet your date.

2. Prevent face to face rejection.
You know it’s hurt and it is certainly not fun to get personal rejected every time you approach a woman.

3. Very effective for busy professional and those whose have a limited social circle.

4. Structured communication helps shy people to overcome their inhibitions

5. Never get stuck with someone longer than you wish to. The time limit ensures you to move quickly from one date to another date.

Cons:
1. Simply base on your first impression. You only have 5 minutes or less to impress or distress her.

2. Shy or timid person always gain disadvantage over their more active suitors by their quick and limited time interval.

3. Fail to provide more reliable long term compatibility or fail to match participants with more meaningful ways.

4. Not always cheap.

Tips for better speed dating:
-Some researchers reveal that traveling topic yields more result than movies topic.
-wear pheromones to attract more dates.
-you only have very short time during speed dating, so dress yourself to impress her.

Blind Date Surviving Tips

Don’t get furious if someday you find your friends and family are trying to set a blind date for you. Don’t take it personal! It is not an insult to either your intelligent nor to your incapability to find a date yourself. Instead take is as a genuine consent and a sign that you’ve been a bachelor too long.

Either you were gay or you’ve decided to be a bachelor by choice, there is no reason why you should be angry at that idea. Blind date has become common thing following the rise of online dating industry and has gained its popularity as one of the quickest way to find a date after speed dating.

If you decided to have a blind date, here some tips for not only surviving a blind date but also find women of your dream.

Please always remember first blind date should not be a pressure at all. Take it easy and consider it as a night out with friend and don’t put too much hope to find that she is exactly a perfect woman of your dream.

This is to ease your disappointment once you meet her and find out she is beyond your expectation. Whatever happens that night, meeting a new friend shall always be great idea and broaden your social life circle.

Here few things you must prepare and plan before hand:
1. What to do first.
2. Where to and what activities
2. What to do / say
3. If it goes well
4. If it does not go well

What to do
Firstly, have your matchmaker informed her that you will be calling, that way she will be expecting your call. And once you call, you won’t find yourself in a situation trying to explain to her that you are not a telemarketer who trying to sell her the new product of panties or cosmetics.

Introduce yourself as the matchmaker’s friend and ask her what she enjoys doing. Always have several suggestions on hand. You don’t want to give her impression that you are a passive or uncreative type person by suggesting movies for your first date.

Unless both of you are a movies goer – movies is not a good idea since it does not support and not provides opportunity to communicate to know each other better. You’ll be paying more attention to your movies instead to your date.

Where to and what activities
Always find activities that require both of you get involved each other and engage in sporadic physical contact to see if there is a mutual interest between both of you.

Ask her to play pool table, for instance. She couldn’t play? Perfect. Offer to teach her and you will have many hand contacts. How about mini golf? Good! You will impress her. Novel review outdoor? Why not! Or a walk in the beach? Offer a lunch or dinner afterwards, but remember to book your table few hours few hours before hand. Waiting or queuing for your table will ruin your night.

What to do / say
Listen to what she says. I really mean that you listen to what she is saying and respond with passion. She would like you better if you show great attention and interest to what she’s saying rather than you fighting her back by shooting words from your mouth boasting yourself.

Once come the time you have to ask questions, do not get too personal. Don’t ask her personal subject and don’t tell her about your bad experience with your ex no matter how she hurt you. It’s taboo! If you start whining, you gave her a negative image.

If you can’t think of anything to say, bring up the matchmaker’s issue. Both of you have known the matchmaker and you both have common ground of the person who set you up so use is as your advantage. One warning though don’t talk negative or bad issue about the matchmaker.

According to a research on 500 couple who joined speed dating, only 9% couples who brought up movies as topic agreed to meet again and 18% who talked about traveling agreed to meet again. So picking up correct topic for your conversation is essential.

If it goes well
By the end of the date, if everything goes well and both of you find a mutual interest, tell her you had a great time and ask her if she wants to go out some time next week and let her know you will give her a call. Suggesting doing thing together that came up during your conversation. If both of you love coffee, ask her to cupping to new coffee shop.

Say good night, give her a hug and kiss her on cheek do not on the lips.

If it doesn’t go well
If it doesn’t go well, also tell her that you had a great time and it’s nice to meet her you’ll probably will see her around. There is no need to be harsh or rude – if both of you are not interest, believe me, both of you will know. Be polite and thank her for the evening, instead.

Seven Sporty Dating Ideas

You have been in contact with her for months through online dating, and now both of you are ready and agree to take one more step to know each other better off line. It excites you – but you are stuck with dating idea that will show you the real sporty side of her. What I mean here, is she really a football fan like she said on her emails or just mention it just to impress you? Why don’t you find it out?

This is important since you put this sporty issue a big deal. She will be your future mate and you don’t ant to be surprised finding her turn out to be a bitch who fights you over the remote control for her favorite soap opera when you are watching the final game on your tube. You want a mate, who will enjoy it as much as you do and share popcorns instead of sharp words, don’t you?

No matter how much you weigh the sport issue on your relationship-if both of you are a sporty type you will find the most suitable places for first dating will be something both of you enjoy and feel comfortable with. But, there is huge YES and big NO – NO places to go for your first date and you need to consider it carefully.

You need to find places that are romantic enough to ensure a second round date will follow so it will not be your first and the last date too. She is a woman after all, and women need you to romance her, to make her feel special.

1. Take her to Gym – Yes and No!
Sweat smelling grunting sound place like gym is not a right place. Her first impression of you will be a skunk smelling male who is struggling with his bench press trying to impress her. Believe me, she won’t. You will imprint your image as a true selfish male on her mind.

Unless both of you are into bodybuilding. Being training partner shall be a good idea. You both will communicate and often have eyes and body contact. If she is not – you are better of find other places.

2. Take her to Tai Qi out door – Yes!
Tai Qi is so relaxing for both mind and body and perfect since it is usually done out door. You will enjoy the fresh air while watching each other doing little erotic slow motion kungfu moves.

It will not leave your body sweat smelling and afterwards both of you shall have a glass of lemon tea or fruit juice in the café near by.

3. A walk in the beach – Yes!
It is better than taking her to your local swimming pool. Beach provides sentimental feeling and is a romantic place. You can’t go wrong with beach. It has sun, sea, sand and beautiful body?

Yes. It’s the right place to put on your sexy swim suit and show off your muscular chest, and you also will be able to see her right away in her bikini. Hmm—not a bad idea, right?

4. Teach her billiards.
Invite her to play some pool game with you. She can’t play? It’s even more than perfect. Offer to teach her.

You got the idea? Imagine her bending her body over the pool table and you stand close even so close behind her that you could smell her. It is so erotic to whisper to her right to her ear while you are teaching her to play pool game.

5. Watch NBA game live! Why not.
Take her watch the game live, not on tube and let the spectator’s emotion take effect. If both of you indeed enjoy the same game, it will be a perfect night for both of you since you are going to scream, to jump, and hug each other to celebrate once your team score and win. This will be a long interesting topic for weeks.

6. Country road takes me home. Yes
Rent bike and ride you date to country side. Challenge her to race to the country side. The last one to reach it shall provide a dinner. This idea is to let her win on purpose to ensure you have another opportunity to invite her for second date.

Don’t forget to make some sandwiches and coffee with you. At the end of the ride, find a place to eat it while having a good conversation.

7. Jacuzzi. Pamper her Pamper You.
Nothing can beat the warm water and jet stream of Jacuzzi. It not only relaxes your muscle, but it gives you a feeling of levity that you can’t get any other way. Jacuzzi will unwind and strike up some interesting conversation. You’ll spend a day you won’t soon forget with her.