Approaching Women – Starts With A Smile :)

When approaching women, it all starts with eye contact and your smile. Women love to be smiled at and they often respond quite well to men who smile at them. Even if you are not their type, you can generate a good feeling in them by giving them a smile. You want your smile to look genuine and you want it to look unique. I asked women: How do you feel when men smile at you? Never mind if you are attracted to them or not, If a man you don't know smiles at you, how does it make you feel? Their responses were as follows:

I feel good, and I smile back too!


I just figure he is friendly.

Depends on the smile. If he smiles at my eyes then I am going to smile back, perhaps say "hi". But if he looks me up and down and looks too confident I’ll ignore it. (I think she means too cocky!)

I welcome smiles from anyone and take no offense! I don't think anything of it.

If anyone smiles at me it makes me feel HAPPY. What a great feeling, I smile at strange people all the time and they always smile back, I hope it makes them feel GOOD. Have a HAPPY day life is too short for grumpy.

If it is a nice smile, it is appealing, no matter what the man looks like, if it is a creepy smile? Not so much.

I smile back if he is just a normal guy, but if he is cute and good looking I smile back and maybe say hi.

It's a nice gesture overall because most people tend to ignore each other. It would be nice if more people took the time to acknowledge each other while in the presence or even in passing. A nice smile from someone can really pick up your day when you are having a bad one. When a guy smiles at me it makes me feel good. Unless he looks perverted, then I am worried.

Generally I think, geez some people still are nice in this world and smile back. If it is a creepy guy or creepy smile, then I still smile back, but not so enthusiastically.

When a man smiles at me it makes me feel good because it makes me feel special.

To be honest, it boosts my self-esteem and feel flattered, but I often cant smile back because there are perverts out there.

Cant say never mind if youre attracted to them or not. It all depends on that. If hes cute or even if there is just a certain something about him, I like it. But if hes a creepy looking guy of course I don't appreciate it as much or may even be unnerved by it.

Everyone has a unique smile and you have to figure out which one gets the most responses. If you are not getting good responses, it might mean one of two things. Either your smile does not look inviting, or you look too creepy or maybe even like a pervert. More times than not, your best smile will be the one that you do instinctively. If you are trying to create a smile, it will most likely look non-genuine. Try not to try too hard and just give a welcome smile. To avoid looking like a creep, try staying within your own age range! :)

By: William Edwards
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First Date Gift Ideas: What Should I Bring Her?

Many guys have the erroneous belief that they need to bring a gift for a woman on the first date. In fact I often receive emails asking about different first date gift ideas a guy should offer a woman.

To be honest, I always cringe when I receive a question like this. What I picture is a guy decked out in a fancy new clothes excitedly waiting to give his date a bouquet of roses. What the guy never expected is how getting a gift on the first date is the last thing she wants you do.


So the answer to the "perfect first date idea" question is this: On your initial date, do NOT get her a gift. In fact, I think giving a woman on your initial date is one of the worst mistakes you could make. Let me tell you why…

Men and women have completely different viewpoints about the first date. Most men get really excited about this date and worry about making a great first impression. They already have feelings for this woman and hope it'll go well. So the logical thought is to get a gift in the hopes of improving their chances for success.

Now let's take a look at how women view the first date. First off, most women are excited about this date, because there is a chance that they might be meeting an interesting guy.

Notice the key word here- MIGHT. A woman will go on a first date to find out if there is a connection to this guy. But she has't made a decision about him. What she's looking for is some sort of chemistry.

So instead of automatically liking this guy, a woman will typically look for a spark of attraction to her date. What's funny is this is not a logical emotion. Instead it's an emotional response or "attraction" to the right guy.

What does this have to do with bringing a gift on the first date?

Well it's simple. When you're on the first date, the LAST thing you want to do is to bring her an expensive gift. When you do this, you're basically showing that you already have feelings for her and desperately want her to like you.

If you bring a present on the date, you're complicating things. Before a woman has decided if she's interested in you, you're bombarding her with gifts and expressing your feelings. The end result is you'll make her feel uncomfortable because she doesn't know how she feels about you.

Instead of getting her a gift, look at the date the same way she does. Use this time to qualify HER. Find out if she's worth dating. Even if she's a good looking girl, you should work hard to find out if there is an emotional connection.

Just remember that dating comes down developing mutual attraction between you and a woman. If you concentrate on building attraction and chemistry instead of trying to impress her, you'll dramatically increase your chances of having a great first date.

By: Chick Magnet 101
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10 Top Relationship Tips

What's the key to a successful relationship? Some might think that's the million dollar question. Sometimes it's just the simple things, that we easily forget or think are unimportant that hold the key to a healthy and happy relationship. Read through the helpful tips below on how to make your relationship go the distance.

1. Without quality time together, your relationship will not survive. Aim to devote at least half an hour a night, and at least one day a month when the two of you spend time exclusively together.

2. You both want to feel secure within the relationship. A good relationship is built on compromise and a lot of give and take from both of you.

3. Often those little things that first attracted you to your partner can turn into nasty annoying habits. Learn to love your partner warts and all. Don't try to change them into something they're not, after all you fell in love with them just the way they were.

4. Money is one of the top conflicts between most couples. For the relationship to work, you need to address your finances and maybe even work out a budget.

5. Learn to argue well. Never say something to your partner that you wouldn't want to hear said back. Just remember, the one good thing they say about arguing, is the making up afterwards.

6. Communication is vital to all healthy relationships. Listen to your partner and avoid blame and judgement. Don't let your emotions dictate your behaviour. Remember just talking things over can help you to both have a deeper understanding of each other.

7. Sort out your sex life, it may start to go downhill over the years, don't just accept it. As soon as you notice it, address it with your partner and work out why, and what to do to bring back the passion. Maybe one of your prefers more sex than the other. Why not experiment with new ideas in the bedroom. Role play, dressing up, or maybe take your sex life out of the bedroom and try new places. The introduction of marital aids into the relationship can also help to spice things up. Whatever you decide, remember communication is vital. sex toys

8. Try to keep your dependence and independence in balance. Tell your partner how much you need them, but don't get to dependent on them and cling to them all the time, as that can make your partner feel trapped. On the flip side of this, don't allow your partner to think you don't need them, by going or doing things without them. Try to keep a happy and healthy balance between the two.

9. Learn to forgive. If you know you will never forgive your partner over something important, and feel the trust can never be regained then give yourself, and him a break and start again, with someone new.

10. Don't ever think that going to counselling is a sign of a failed relationship. It can turn a bad relationship around and can also turn an average relationship into an excellent one. More and more people are turning to counselling today than ever, it shows you are both prepared to try and make things better, which can't be a bad thing at all.

The fact remains, that whether you're dating or married, relationships are hard. It takes 100% commitment from both of you. However, healthy and long-lasting relationships are achievable and many couples have proven just that. Not everything is always going to be perfect but if you both choose to make it work then it can. And remember it's the little things that you sometimes do that can go a long way to making your relationship work.


About the Author
Chris Simms is a well known psychiatrist. His main areas of interest are relationships, social matters, relate and human psychology.