Learn how to attract members of the opposite sex
Women know within a few minutes of interacting with you whether or not you're a sexually confident man. It's all about your voice tone and body language. If you're not sure whether you project this “sexy beast” persona, chances are you don't. So what's a guy to do?
These four basis skills will instantly make you irresistible:
Lesson One:
Learn how to hold eye contact for longer than she does. Don't gawk, cold stare, or use daring eye glances. Just gently hold her gaze until she looks away. Avoiding eye contact reeks of emotional insecurity. The most effective flirting tool you have are your eyes. If you catch the eye of someone attractive and they look back, don't become self-conscious and turn away.
Women like men who are not afraid and know what they want. Do the glance—linger—look away—then reconnect routine. After a few times, she'll know you are interested and will hopefully return the eye contact. When you do catch her eye on the reconnect, stay there until she looks away. Hold her gaze (without giving her an America's Most Wanted stare). Hold her gaze long enough to say, “I see you and I like you.” Then throw her a confident smile.
Lesson Two:
Women look first at your attire and second at how you hold yourself. Keep your body posture in a stance that says, “I'm the dominant male and I own this place.” Suck in your stomach, hold your head up, chest out, shoulders back….and generally hold yourself like you're the most powerful person you've ever known. It may seem a little awkward at first, but it'll work.
Carry yourself like a manly man and women will have a positive subconscious, and then conscious, reaction to you. A woman will see your confidence as you walk across a room when you walk strong and proud of who you are. She will be drawn to your confidence.
Lesson Three:
Slow down. Confident people are not in a hurry. Fidgeting or nervous behavior shows insecurity and self-consciousness. Use slow, calculated gestures and movements. Walk slowly and with purpose, turn your head slowly, gesture slowly, even blink slowly. Emulate John Wayne or James Bond.
This transmits a feeling of “I'm comfortable in my own skin,” and makes a huge impact on women. Don't overdo it and become the slowmo guy, but always project an attitude that you know what you are doing and where you are going. The next time you are out and see an attractive women you are interested in and what to go up and talk to. Try this trick. Instead of thinking what will they think of me? turn it around to will I like them? Changing your thinking will adjust your body language and your conversation from timid to friendly and self-assured.
Lesson Four:
Lower your voice. A wobbly or high-pitched voice is a big turn-off for women since it relays low self-esteem. Moderately deep conveys confidence. Learn how to speak from the chest and stomach and not from the throat. Speak slower, articulate your words, pause more…it creates anticipation, which is sexy. If you talk too fast and too much when you get nervous, take a deep breath, let it out slowly, and relax. Stand up and hum a little before you leave a voicemail message—it will lower your pitch.
By: Alana Beyer
For more information about It's Just Lunch or to purchase the It's Just Lunch Guide to Dating in Sacremento.
Women know within a few minutes of interacting with you whether or not you're a sexually confident man. It's all about your voice tone and body language. If you're not sure whether you project this “sexy beast” persona, chances are you don't. So what's a guy to do?
These four basis skills will instantly make you irresistible:
Lesson One:
Learn how to hold eye contact for longer than she does. Don't gawk, cold stare, or use daring eye glances. Just gently hold her gaze until she looks away. Avoiding eye contact reeks of emotional insecurity. The most effective flirting tool you have are your eyes. If you catch the eye of someone attractive and they look back, don't become self-conscious and turn away.
Women like men who are not afraid and know what they want. Do the glance—linger—look away—then reconnect routine. After a few times, she'll know you are interested and will hopefully return the eye contact. When you do catch her eye on the reconnect, stay there until she looks away. Hold her gaze (without giving her an America's Most Wanted stare). Hold her gaze long enough to say, “I see you and I like you.” Then throw her a confident smile.
Lesson Two:
Women look first at your attire and second at how you hold yourself. Keep your body posture in a stance that says, “I'm the dominant male and I own this place.” Suck in your stomach, hold your head up, chest out, shoulders back….and generally hold yourself like you're the most powerful person you've ever known. It may seem a little awkward at first, but it'll work.
Carry yourself like a manly man and women will have a positive subconscious, and then conscious, reaction to you. A woman will see your confidence as you walk across a room when you walk strong and proud of who you are. She will be drawn to your confidence.
Lesson Three:
Slow down. Confident people are not in a hurry. Fidgeting or nervous behavior shows insecurity and self-consciousness. Use slow, calculated gestures and movements. Walk slowly and with purpose, turn your head slowly, gesture slowly, even blink slowly. Emulate John Wayne or James Bond.
This transmits a feeling of “I'm comfortable in my own skin,” and makes a huge impact on women. Don't overdo it and become the slowmo guy, but always project an attitude that you know what you are doing and where you are going. The next time you are out and see an attractive women you are interested in and what to go up and talk to. Try this trick. Instead of thinking what will they think of me? turn it around to will I like them? Changing your thinking will adjust your body language and your conversation from timid to friendly and self-assured.
Lesson Four:
Lower your voice. A wobbly or high-pitched voice is a big turn-off for women since it relays low self-esteem. Moderately deep conveys confidence. Learn how to speak from the chest and stomach and not from the throat. Speak slower, articulate your words, pause more…it creates anticipation, which is sexy. If you talk too fast and too much when you get nervous, take a deep breath, let it out slowly, and relax. Stand up and hum a little before you leave a voicemail message—it will lower your pitch.
By: Alana Beyer
For more information about It's Just Lunch or to purchase the It's Just Lunch Guide to Dating in Sacremento.
