Being 'the Man' Vs. Understanding Women

Up until fairly recently I also thought that it's more important to be the best a man can be; a masculine role model of desire for women.

And, yes while that is important to have value to continue offering women, it's not the most important thing initially (or at least in a physical relationship).


Many men will think that being more 'macho' will help them 'get chicks'. Others think that having a nice car and throwing around money on expensive dinners will get them faster in the sack.

Yet this whole time, not only are they being ineffective in many ways, they're still ignorant to women.

If men could understand women, they would have the cutting edge on how to (respectfully) seduce them.

We're conditioned to be ignorant to the truth of women because their truth is behaviorally repressed. That's why we all have problems with them and in forming new relationships.

But if you could see it and knew what her true sexuality was, you'd be way ahead of any competition despite your other weaknesses.

Why? Because it's really about a woman and I don't mean her inner or social development. I mean it's about the one thing you couldn't see yet.

And I'm not talking about maxi-pad's, shopping, menstrual cycles or ANY of that. It's up to a man alone to bring the secret of a woman out. Those are the men who end up sleeping with them.

Those are the men they let in.

Oh, you mean to be like a gay guy or metrosexual then? Nope.

You can be yourself and masculine AS YOU ARE and still succeed with women. They're looking for men who aren't afraid of them, who have the ability to raise their attraction response.

You don't have to be an 'alpha' Stallone model of masculinity.

If we all had to be at that level, it wouldn't be biological..everyone is born with the instinct to reproduce and find a mate (or more than one).

Sure their gay guy friends are able to talk to them about issues but it's a guy like you who can fulfill her desires when you know the 'secret to women'.

So it's not just about being the 'best' guy you can be (I improved myself over a decade and it didn't have any direct effect on new relationships).

It's about relational dynamics and having a grounded, proper model of female sexuality instead of the backwards ones we have now.

Yes, we're missing a lot of male role models now in our mainstream media. It's up to men to just kind of take that role themselves and 'be' the man that women want.

I've turned off the t.v. for the most part. I have a tremendous amount of power around other power. I see it for what it is and can immediately tell what kind of message or relationship
it's trying to force me into.

I hope other men can stop being programmed into becoming more of a wuss, instead that they can take some time to step back and get real answers as I have found.

Answers of power and hope. It's great to always be more of a man, but at the same time, understand women, their behavior and your relationship to all of it and your success with compound dramatically from where you used to be.

Go Alpha and cultivate cognition of TRUE female sexuality! I show you on my website.

By: Rion Williams

Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power, body language and social dynamics. Learn how to be an alpha male who is comfortable in his own skin and succeeds with women and dating @ www.abovethegame.net Also, you can get instant access to see the 'secret of women' for yourself @ www.secretofwomen.com/resources.htm

What Attracts A Man To A Woman

SPRUCE up your appearance ladies and take grooming very, very seriously. Let us not blame women who go in for asset-enhancing techniques anymore. For, where a man is concerned, nothing seems to have changed so far as his mating instincts go. He is still the visual creature he was many centuries ago - appearances are all to him!!

And even with appearance, he goes straight for the jugular - those aspects that signify a woman's sexuality are most attractive to him. For a man, the seduction game is all about sex, sex and more sex. Only then comes - even more sex! A woman might as well accept this and be resigned to the fact that it's the sex appeal she oozes that scores over all other attributes she may possess - mental, emotional, spiritual, whatever.


Evolution has geared men to look for facial sexual signals. Research shows men are most attracted to a childlike face, for this arouses their paternal instincts to touch and protect. With eyes, men world over go for the large, luminescent variety. When a woman is attracted to a man, her pupils dilate. Contact lenses give the impression of glistening eyes and permanent dilation of pupils. And sure enough, studies reveal that men find women with contact lenses very sexy! Lips, if we are to believe Freud and zoologists, are an outer manifestation of a woman's sexuality and fill with blood and swell up when she is excited. Men find full, sensual lips attractive. Do you wonder at the silicon injects women undergo to get the bee-bitten swollen look?

For the rest, men find a woman with long neck and long hair more appealing. Long necks signify gender difference, while long hair indicates good health and so potential to produce healthy offspring.

Coming to body shape, a man's ideal for women is a waist-hip ratio of about 70 per cent - and this ratio is actually an indicator of high fertility in a woman. All men love breasts and cleavage, and find a rounded, protruding behind attractive - a symbol of fertility since time immemorial. So, ok, with a man, looks do matter. And how! To the extent that over time, women's bodies have evolved as sexual signals to beckon men!

However, things are different when a man is looking for a long-term partner. Unlike women, men, with their age-old hunting instincts, know exactly what they are looking for when their search for a partner begins. And, a man makes a difference between short-term and long-term partners, with criteria for both differing.

If it is a fling or a one-night stand he is looking for, he looks out for women who are provocatively dressed, sexy and a little drunk and loud. If she doesn't drink, confesses a male colleague, forget about it! You aren't in luck that night. For a short-term affair, she must also be friendly and warm into the bargain.

However, if a man is looking for a long-term relationship, the criteria changes. Now he's looking for a beautiful girl, warm and friendly. She should be sexy but not overtly so - after all you wouldn't want a Mallika Sherawat as long-term girlfriend, would you, exclaims the colleague in horrified tones! She should be 'different' from others - warm, attractive and a good conversationalist. Research shows personality, good looks, brain and humour is a man's wish list in order of priority for a partner.

A man likes a woman to say positive things to him, ask questions about and show interest in whatever he does. Of course the one thing that puts him off is a woman who clings - is too needy and wanting all the time. A woman must give him his space. A trick the colleague shares is that the woman must keep withdrawing a bit and coming back again - so as to keep him on his toes. A man appreciates a slight aloofness over a clingy attitude.

If a man needs to appeal to a woman's vanity to be attractive to her, she needs to appeal to his ego if she is to make an impact on him. Most men are susceptible to compliments that boost their self-esteem. And nobody knows this better than a woman.

Give him single-minded attention, flirt with him, prod him on to talk about his day and work, make appropriately appreciative sounds at the right places and soon you will have him eating out of your hands. Till you keep him guessing, he will dance attendance; the moment he knows you are hooked, he will relax his guard and start taking you for granted. A man somehow is convinced that a woman dresses and grooms herself for him, though research shows women dress more for other women!

Men, however, draw a straight correlation between the amount of effort women take with their appearance and their interest in them. As a result, if somewhere along the line a woman stops looking after her appearance, a man sees it as a signal that he is no longer important to her!

And so, just like a man must never stop complimenting a woman, a woman must always look-after her appearance for her man's sake. If he must always pander to her vanity, she needs to pander to his ego. When a woman looks for a sense of humour in a man, she means he should be able to make her laugh; when he seeks a woman with a sense of humour, a man means she should be able to laugh at his jokes! While a woman looks for a bit of a scoundrel in a short-term relationship, he is looking for a bit of a vamp. However for long-term, both change criteria and look for more mind than matter! Now she seeks a guy with potential for moving ahead, while he looks for a good homemaker.

Sounds so clinical and unromantic, doesn't it? And yet, knowingly or unknowingly, it all boils down to just that! What's so different about the 21st century? Primal instincts are still as much at play beneath a veneer of civilization.

By: Michael Douglas

Michael Douglas is a relationship expert and the webmaster of www.loversmanual.com where he offers free dating tips for men on how to succeed with women and relationship advice for women to help them in building healthy relationship with men.

How To Seduce Women Easily

have a few tricks for seducing women easily which I am going to share with you in this article. Specifically I will discuss how to "play her cards before she can", the obsession factor, and finally, what I call "ultimate attitude". I will discuss what each of these are in detail, and how you can use them to start seducing women easily. At the end of this article you should have the ability to skyrocket your dating activities and share the company of more beautiful women than ever before.

Once you understand the game that is being played, you will be able to start seducing women easily. That game is attraction. It's kind of like cards. Whoever throws down the trump wins the hand. Here's how a typical dating scenario plays out. Man meets women, and to win her attention he does nice things for her. This does win her attention, but not her attraction. Instead it makes her utter the words every man hates...


"Let's just be friend." She played her trump card and you lost.

Think about how many times this happens to men, and how few times it works the other way around, where the man wants to be the friend. It's because the man is trying to win the woman's affection and thus, is being controlled.

Here's what you can do to take away her "friends" card. When you first meet her, ask her out for a simple 20 minute "primer date". Say something like, "We can meet for 20 minutes to have some tea and some stimulating conversation. if nothing else, sounds like I'll make a nice friend." What does that say to her? It says you make the choice of whether or not you find her attractive. In other words, instead of fighting for her affection, she is going to have to fight for yours.

Homework assignment: Think of all the times women play their trump cards on men. Find a way to play those same cards on them, like the example above.

The second trick to seducing women easily is the "good obsession" factor. Do you know how people become obsessed by things? Knowing this is the key to seducing women easily. All obsession have two things. A reward and a punishment. However, what makes an obsession work is that the reward and punishment are given out unpredictably. Like slot machines.

Now, here's how you take that information and make it work for you when seducing women.

Say a girl gives you a compliment. The first time you say thanks. The second time she gives you a compliment you say something like, "Is that the best you could come up with?" Or if she comes over and sits on your lap, the first time you give her a hug. The second time she does it you push her away. You might call her a bad girl, and then give her a kiss. Or even better, tell her, "Let's just be friends" and then give her a kiss.

Do you see how this fits into creating an obsession for you? Now don't take it to far... you want to make the woman attracted to you, not a nut case.

The third trick, and in fact all tricks for seducing women easily comes down to attitude. I have found that the most successful seducers can say almost anything when approaching a woman and still get a date from them. Why? Because they share the same attitude, and it shows in their words, actions and body language. What is that attitude? It goes like this:

"I know you are totally into me, and while I'm not sure if I'm into you, I'm kind enough to give you a chance to prove yourself." That is the ultimate attitude for seducing women easily. So how do you get that attitude? Well you won't get it by reading one measly article and trying it out once. You need to start saying it to yourself everyday, over and over. And keep saying it regardless of how many women turn you down.

Eventually by saying it, you will break your current attitude of how women view you, and over time you will "get it". Then you will become a machine at seducing women easily.

By: Kurt Dight
Kurt Dight has created a free 5 day mini course in "how to seduce any women". It is available for instant access only for a limited time at www.dating-secrets2.com/

Single Parent Dating: It's No Longer A Taboo

With the advent if the Internet and the increasing number of dating sites it has no longer become a stigma for single parents to date. There are dating sites that cater to just that specialty. So any second thoughts you have about dating because you may be single, well just shove them under the rug.

If you've had a relationship or marriage and it didn't work out like you hoped or planned, take heart in the fact that your situation is an all too familiar one. Now you're a single parent with the responsibility of a child or children.


Are you reluctant to date because you are a single parent and unsure if someone can understand your lifestyle? In the past many used the Parents without Partners organization but now one can browse personal sites to find many people with kids at home. You can even do a search for partners with children at some dating sites.

Many single people without children are happy to meet someone raising kids. This shows to them responsibility, care, sensitivity and other qualities. Don't forget someone may want a child in their life as well. They could want children but may have commitments in their own time schedule at work or with elderly parents. Having little free time is a common situation for a number of people so they may not see your priority for your children first to be an issue.

People are single parents due to being widowed, divorced or never having been married. And then there is that occasional, infrequent situation where the spouse has left, leaving the remaining parent alone, with the child or children to carry on by themselves.

Unresolved issues and baggage can be from any of the above situations and others. The most important thing you can do for yourself is to find a way to move on from the past situation, start over from where you are. This not only will help your dating life, but also your family life with your children since they can pick up on resentments, bitterness, anger, and underlying anxiety you carry inside of you. You need to do your best to shield your children from such emotions as it could permanently affect them, even after they grow up.

A concern many parents have is that their children may not be able to accept their mother's new boyfriend or father's new girlfriend into their lives. However, initially this should not be an issue when the dating is in the preliminary stages, as it is best to get a babysitter to watch your children during your early dating.

This gives you time to get to know the person and see if you want them in you and your family's lives. You also need time for yourself to associate with people in your own age group as a break from kid time. Kids may have jealousy or other emotions such as feeling their parent is being replaced so it is not wise to have them meet a new person in your life unless the situation is stable and you feel it can progress to the type of family relationship you're seeking.

Be extra cautious if the person you're dating says they are not a "kid" person. There is usually a solid reason behind that statement and you should probably heed their words and look elsewhere for a relationship without that major handicap. It's difficult to change people. It would be a shame to get too far in a relationship only to find out that what they said about not being a "kid" person was not only true, but a relationship breaker that you were warned of long before.

Your child or kids are important to you and you don't want to be put in a position where you have to choose between your social life and your family life. Ideally you'd want to be with someone with whom you can incorporate your role as a parent along with your romantic life. In fact if it cannot be like that there will almost surely be ongoing problems and friction between you.

Expect to be a somewhat nervous if you are just getting back into the dating game. You may feel guilt, insecurity and other emotions and if so it's best not to show it if possible.
These are natural. Remember that you need a social outlet and also time with someone your own age. Don't just think of online dating sites as a place to meet someone. Also
look around at the sports practices your kids may be involved in as well as school activities.

Yes there are still the traditional methods of finding people that could ultimately be a partner in a relationship. When two people already share elements in the same world, this makes a nice connection. This won't happen if you don't get out and be around people. So be proactive in this area.
Copyright © Honey B. Wackx

By: Honey B. Wackx.
Honey B. Wackx is an aspiring article and magazine writer. One of her favorite interests is online dating and romance and Honey B. will be revamping the www.unlonely.com dating site. She is also interested in weddings and unusual wedding gifts and hopes to have time to write some articles for www.weddingfervor.com site.

Top Three Topics You Should Avoid While On A Date With Her

A first date can be both an exciting and scary moment between two people, which makes every detail of an initial meeting quite important.

While the kind of clothes you wear, cologne you splash on, and dating atmosphere are all essential factors that influence the success or failure of a first date, what you say will also serve as a worthiness indicator for a second rendezvous.

Below, you will find a few topics that are better left unsaid for a first encounter:

Topic #1: Your Past Relationships

When talking about past relationships (unless she inquires), it usually ends as a lose-lose situation. Many people tend to mention too much about their past lovers on a first date.

If you talk badly about your ex-girlfriend, it often appears as if you haven't gotten over her yet.

If you talk too nicely about your ex, it still sounds as if you aren't over the relationship, causing your date to question competition and relationship security in the future.

Topic #2: Her Past Relationships

Guys generally think they are delivering a compliment, but one of the worst things to say to a woman on a first date is, "What is a good-looking gal like you doing single?" Most cases, the preference is mostly not by choice.

Do you really want to know that her ex-boyfriend slept with her best friend or that she hasn't met the right one?

To avoid an awkward turn in conversation, let this type of information naturally flow from her lips. You never know when you might reopen a wound from her past.

Topic #3: Complimenting Other Females

While this topic of conversation is thought an obvious one to avoid, there are many men who slip at the tongue and speak to their date like they would to their buddies.

When an appealing woman walks by or a set of attractive curves has caught your eye, it is unwise to share these observations with your date.

If your wandering eyes haven't said enough, it is best you don't exclaim something inappropriate such as, "Do you like that dress?" or "Would you ever wear something like that?"


About the Author
The Giggling Ken Bangler is the author of the FREE report titled "The 7 Signs That She Is Interested In You". For a limited time, you can get a FREE copy at http://seductionmonkey.com/topics.html

The Quest for Love Online

With the development of the internet, the world has progressed in a number of ways. Communication can occur in a matter of seconds, and just about all of the information one needs to function in life can be found online. Questions are asked, key words are typed, answers are provided, and problems are solved! But what about the one thing we all struggle to attain in our desperate pursuit of the utmost human connection? Love: such an elusive and complex concept seems a bit lofty for our hunks of metal to handle, but evidence has shown that computers can be a means to its attainment.

Type the word "dating" into your Google toolbar on Firefox, and a million ads for dating websites will appear. Many of us are skeptical - how can these online programs really work? I've heard many an amusing story from unlucky-in-love friends who have tried sites like these. (I sheepishly admit to having recommended some of these sites surreptitiously via one firefox extension or another in order to eliminate the amount of complaining coming my way) Sadly, none of them ever came out with an actual love story.

But these sites aren't the only places online where potential love-interests can be found. The boom in social networking has built a multitude of communities in which people can be scoped out, their interests scanned, pictures analyzed, and personalities assessed. A poke or a wall post can be the starting point of a meaningful relationship online. What remains to be seen is what happens once two people are no longer separated by a computer screen. And with all of the warnings and criminal scares, who is brave enough to meet face-to-face with a complete stranger they met online? It takes a lot of nerve, trust, and confidence (or desperation?) to go through with something like that. It has happened, however, and it has worked.

Browse around, and you're sure to find many tales of love found online, whether it was on Second Life, Party Poker, or good ol' MySpace. If you're looking for love, you may want to try it out. Just don't go in with your expectations too high. ;)

About the Author
Amanda is a junior at Stanford University with a passion for writing, communication, psychology, and communication.

What An Older Man Has To Offer

You know what you want, and sometimes that's an older man. While younger men can have their charms, some women are just drawn to the charms of a mature man.
There are a lot of reasons to date an older man, and Sugar Daddy Babes brings you just a few to consider here:

Security
Your older man can bring a whole new level of reliability. Sugar Daddies are always there right when you need them, and you'll never need to deal with childish antics. If you're ever in a pinch, an older man is more likely to stay by your side and help - not run!
One of the biggest problems in the dating pool is that men seem to want to enjoy their freedom. Younger men might not want to settle down, and finding a serious partner or committed companion can be a challenge. If you want a man to depend on, you're probably best off with an older man.


Flattery
Men want their partners to attract them, and when you're armed with youth, you cannot go wrong.
If you get an older man, you can be sure that you'll get plenty of compliments. There's no pressure to be a beauty queen; just being fun, young, and spontaneous is a total turn-on. Youth is an aphrodisiac for your older man, so you should get prepared for compliments and totally shameless chivalry. Enjoy.

Fun
It feels good to be spoiled, doesn't it?
An older man is probably going to treat you to some outstanding presents and gifts to which you may be unaccustomed. Fine dining, dancing, and surprises are all little touches that aren't really part of a younger man's repertoire. You can have a taste of old-style romance with your Sugar Daddy, which never goes out of style.

Reliability
If you're tired of cancelled dates and late arrivals, an older man will leave you pleasantly surprised.
A younger guy might be juggling work and friends while changing his routine frequently, but an older man has a realistic grasp on his time. An older man knows what he can offer you and will most likely go out of his way to do so. You can enjoy your time with your Older Man knowing that he won't play a disappearing act with you.

Maturity
Some subjects younger men simply can't deal with.
You can discuss plans, family, and current world issues with a sensitive and cultured Sugar Daddy. Older men have a more cultured and refined way of dealing with mature subjects, and you'll feel more intellectually fulfilled, too.

Interest
Older men don't want to just talk about themselves.They are interested in you, and will be curious about your life. This interest makes your connection stronger, and you can really open up about your feelings and background without having to face an immature response.

Restraint and Tact
Some of us truly value our privacy.
Relationships with your Sugar Daddy can be a delicate thing and some girls like to keep things discreet. An older man is more likely to give you that privacy to make you feel all the more comfortable.
After all these reasons why your Sugar Daddy will surprise you, what's stopping you from trying to find yours today? They are not to everyone's taste, but you'll get a lot in return, and get a little spoiled, too.

By: evvo
Article source: www.SugarDaddyBabes.com

Reasons Why Women Fall In Love With Older Men

If you are a man and you’re over 35 years old, if you are attracted by younger women but you are afraid of being rejected or not to be taken seriously, you will find out the real thing about this issue in this article.

Let’s state an irrefutable fact: most women over 25 and single are already disappointed by men of their age.


And their big problem is to find a mature man that can satisfy their needs.

Here is another fact: in most cases men reach their maturity level after the age of 30.

These women believe that older men won’t break their hearts the way younger men have done; they believe that an older man will have the commitment and the willingness required for a long term relationship.

Age indicates maturity, and decision making ability.

Many people believe couples with the same age don't respect each other.

Younger women, on the other hand, enjoy having someone take care of them and are attracted to an older person's accomplishments, economic stability and EMOTIONAL MATURITY.

Make sure you share similar life views and goals, despite your age difference.

Do you both appreciate each other's friends? Do you share the same principles when it comes to family?

So, an age difference of 7 - 15 years can lead to a really great relationship if both partners are willing to. That’s because we don't choose who we fall in love with, it simply happens.

By: Ovi Dogar

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