Single Parent Dating: It's No Longer A Taboo

With the advent if the Internet and the increasing number of dating sites it has no longer become a stigma for single parents to date. There are dating sites that cater to just that specialty. So any second thoughts you have about dating because you may be single, well just shove them under the rug.

If you've had a relationship or marriage and it didn't work out like you hoped or planned, take heart in the fact that your situation is an all too familiar one. Now you're a single parent with the responsibility of a child or children.


Are you reluctant to date because you are a single parent and unsure if someone can understand your lifestyle? In the past many used the Parents without Partners organization but now one can browse personal sites to find many people with kids at home. You can even do a search for partners with children at some dating sites.

Many single people without children are happy to meet someone raising kids. This shows to them responsibility, care, sensitivity and other qualities. Don't forget someone may want a child in their life as well. They could want children but may have commitments in their own time schedule at work or with elderly parents. Having little free time is a common situation for a number of people so they may not see your priority for your children first to be an issue.

People are single parents due to being widowed, divorced or never having been married. And then there is that occasional, infrequent situation where the spouse has left, leaving the remaining parent alone, with the child or children to carry on by themselves.

Unresolved issues and baggage can be from any of the above situations and others. The most important thing you can do for yourself is to find a way to move on from the past situation, start over from where you are. This not only will help your dating life, but also your family life with your children since they can pick up on resentments, bitterness, anger, and underlying anxiety you carry inside of you. You need to do your best to shield your children from such emotions as it could permanently affect them, even after they grow up.

A concern many parents have is that their children may not be able to accept their mother's new boyfriend or father's new girlfriend into their lives. However, initially this should not be an issue when the dating is in the preliminary stages, as it is best to get a babysitter to watch your children during your early dating.

This gives you time to get to know the person and see if you want them in you and your family's lives. You also need time for yourself to associate with people in your own age group as a break from kid time. Kids may have jealousy or other emotions such as feeling their parent is being replaced so it is not wise to have them meet a new person in your life unless the situation is stable and you feel it can progress to the type of family relationship you're seeking.

Be extra cautious if the person you're dating says they are not a "kid" person. There is usually a solid reason behind that statement and you should probably heed their words and look elsewhere for a relationship without that major handicap. It's difficult to change people. It would be a shame to get too far in a relationship only to find out that what they said about not being a "kid" person was not only true, but a relationship breaker that you were warned of long before.

Your child or kids are important to you and you don't want to be put in a position where you have to choose between your social life and your family life. Ideally you'd want to be with someone with whom you can incorporate your role as a parent along with your romantic life. In fact if it cannot be like that there will almost surely be ongoing problems and friction between you.

Expect to be a somewhat nervous if you are just getting back into the dating game. You may feel guilt, insecurity and other emotions and if so it's best not to show it if possible.
These are natural. Remember that you need a social outlet and also time with someone your own age. Don't just think of online dating sites as a place to meet someone. Also
look around at the sports practices your kids may be involved in as well as school activities.

Yes there are still the traditional methods of finding people that could ultimately be a partner in a relationship. When two people already share elements in the same world, this makes a nice connection. This won't happen if you don't get out and be around people. So be proactive in this area.
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By: Honey B. Wackx.
Honey B. Wackx is an aspiring article and magazine writer. One of her favorite interests is online dating and romance and Honey B. will be revamping the www.unlonely.com dating site. She is also interested in weddings and unusual wedding gifts and hopes to have time to write some articles for www.weddingfervor.com site.