Flirting Etiquettes For Gentlemen

By and large, guys are pretty bad when it comes to flirting. It's time you learn a few of the basics, so that you can get an edge over the competition. These flirting tips will have you headed in the right direction in no time.

Physical & Verbal cues


1) Posture and Positioning
Your posture communicates everything. You need to arch your back and stick out your chest. Take up space. If you're talking to a girl, stand no more than two feet away. Don't necessarily encroach her space, but stand just a little closer than you might ordinarily.

Maintain an open body position at all times. Never cross your arms or put your hands in your pockets. If you want to test her to see if she's into you, step back a foot and see if she follows. If she does come closer, it's a good sign.

2) Eyes
The eyes can be your most effective tool for flirting. Use your eyes to give off powerful stares of desire. It's possible to make a girl's heart skip a beat by giving her a playful, lusty, or lingering stare. If you're walking by a girl you've got the hots for, give her a 2-3 second stare and then slowly glance away (slow is important). Smile just as you start to look away. She'll get the message.

3) Touch
It's OK to lightly touch her shoulder or arm when you're talking to her. But be careful. Guys have to walk a fine line when it comes to touch. Don't go overboard or you'll freak the girl out.

4) Be aggressive
Women love guys who aren't scared to go after what they want. When you show no fear in your pursuit, you come across looking like a confident man. Don't be scared to compliment a girl...tell her what you think. If she's looking extra nice, go ahead and tell her. Not only will it make her day...she'll immediately realize that you want her.

5) What you should say
To be completely honest, if you're sending out all the right body language, it doesn't matter what you say. Keep the conversation light, nothing serious or in-depth. Bear in mind, though, that it's always best to focus on charming her and being complimentary about her looks. You can also be flattering by telling her how well she did on an oral report or test, a good game, etc. You can even tease her playfully. Just be sure to send out all the other body signals while you're talking.

Mental cues

1) Exude confidence and self-assuredness
It's crucial that you present yourself as a person who feels in control of the situation and isn't nervous. Put on a show of confidence...girls love guys who are secure. Remember, a confident and secure person is a major turn on. This is why girls are always falling for cocky jerks. Exhibiting insecurity and fear is something you should avoid at all costs. This means no...stammering, fidgeting, wandering eyes (off into the distance), wavering voice, etc.

2) Radiate happiness, enthusiasm, & excitement
You've got to be full of energy and in a positive mind frame to be an effective flirt. If you're kicking out good vibes, your target will pick up on it and rise to your level.

By: James_j
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4 Lessons On The Rules Of Attraction For Single Men

Learn how to attract members of the opposite sex
Women know within a few minutes of interacting with you whether or not you're a sexually confident man. It's all about your voice tone and body language. If you're not sure whether you project this “sexy beast” persona, chances are you don't. So what's a guy to do?
These four basis skills will instantly make you irresistible:

Lesson One:
Learn how to hold eye contact for longer than she does. Don't gawk, cold stare, or use daring eye glances. Just gently hold her gaze until she looks away. Avoiding eye contact reeks of emotional insecurity. The most effective flirting tool you have are your eyes. If you catch the eye of someone attractive and they look back, don't become self-conscious and turn away.

Women like men who are not afraid and know what they want. Do the glance—linger—look away—then reconnect routine. After a few times, she'll know you are interested and will hopefully return the eye contact. When you do catch her eye on the reconnect, stay there until she looks away. Hold her gaze (without giving her an America's Most Wanted stare). Hold her gaze long enough to say, “I see you and I like you.” Then throw her a confident smile.

Lesson Two:
Women look first at your attire and second at how you hold yourself. Keep your body posture in a stance that says, “I'm the dominant male and I own this place.” Suck in your stomach, hold your head up, chest out, shoulders back….and generally hold yourself like you're the most powerful person you've ever known. It may seem a little awkward at first, but it'll work.

Carry yourself like a manly man and women will have a positive subconscious, and then conscious, reaction to you. A woman will see your confidence as you walk across a room when you walk strong and proud of who you are. She will be drawn to your confidence.

Lesson Three:
Slow down. Confident people are not in a hurry. Fidgeting or nervous behavior shows insecurity and self-consciousness. Use slow, calculated gestures and movements. Walk slowly and with purpose, turn your head slowly, gesture slowly, even blink slowly. Emulate John Wayne or James Bond.

This transmits a feeling of “I'm comfortable in my own skin,” and makes a huge impact on women. Don't overdo it and become the slowmo guy, but always project an attitude that you know what you are doing and where you are going. The next time you are out and see an attractive women you are interested in and what to go up and talk to. Try this trick. Instead of thinking what will they think of me? turn it around to will I like them? Changing your thinking will adjust your body language and your conversation from timid to friendly and self-assured.

Lesson Four:
Lower your voice. A wobbly or high-pitched voice is a big turn-off for women since it relays low self-esteem. Moderately deep conveys confidence. Learn how to speak from the chest and stomach and not from the throat. Speak slower, articulate your words, pause more…it creates anticipation, which is sexy. If you talk too fast and too much when you get nervous, take a deep breath, let it out slowly, and relax. Stand up and hum a little before you leave a voicemail message—it will lower your pitch.

By: Alana Beyer
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Mature Fun from Adult Dating Services

Modern technology gave new dimension to the ever elusive adult dating scene. Now, adult dating services abound for those who dislike the nitty-gritty and dating "procedures and stages." These dating services also make less confident people more assertive through the initial "faceless" communication.

They offer fun activities for those looking for friends, activity partners, and lovers.

Here are a few of the best sites in the field of adult dating.

American Singles

It claims to jumpstarting one's love life. It is one of those adult dating services that allow the posting of a profile and uploading a picture. Matchmaking is made through setting up its members with those who match their profiles.

eHarmony

It is another adult dating service that caters to those who are searching for friends and life partners. It takes pride on its innovative profile matching system. It boasts of its 29 key dimensions that predict in-depth compatibility and more successful relationships.

Venusrooms.com

It is also an adult dating service that claims its being one of the world's leading online dating sites. It is for those who live in UK and USA. It is also a free adult dating service. Its features include dating profiles with picture galleries, video dating profiles, an online dating chat program, friends list, adult dating ratings, e-mail alerts, etc.

Tickle

It is an adult dating service that uses personality and IQ tests to facilitate the matchmaking process. Members of Tickle are often with college education, professional and those that reside in large cities.

Are you ready for adult fun or simply looking for less teeny-bopper kind of dating style? Then, choose from the wide array of adult dating services.

Who knows. . .one could even deliver your Mr. and Ms. Right to your door step.

About The Author:

Lawrence Andrews is an ePublisher, software developer, consultant, and author of numerous books. Visit his Private Label Content and Software site at http://www.lmamedia.com for more information about Dating Do's and Dont's.

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