Being 'the Man' Vs. Understanding Women

Up until fairly recently I also thought that it's more important to be the best a man can be; a masculine role model of desire for women.

And, yes while that is important to have value to continue offering women, it's not the most important thing initially (or at least in a physical relationship).


Many men will think that being more 'macho' will help them 'get chicks'. Others think that having a nice car and throwing around money on expensive dinners will get them faster in the sack.

Yet this whole time, not only are they being ineffective in many ways, they're still ignorant to women.

If men could understand women, they would have the cutting edge on how to (respectfully) seduce them.

We're conditioned to be ignorant to the truth of women because their truth is behaviorally repressed. That's why we all have problems with them and in forming new relationships.

But if you could see it and knew what her true sexuality was, you'd be way ahead of any competition despite your other weaknesses.

Why? Because it's really about a woman and I don't mean her inner or social development. I mean it's about the one thing you couldn't see yet.

And I'm not talking about maxi-pad's, shopping, menstrual cycles or ANY of that. It's up to a man alone to bring the secret of a woman out. Those are the men who end up sleeping with them.

Those are the men they let in.

Oh, you mean to be like a gay guy or metrosexual then? Nope.

You can be yourself and masculine AS YOU ARE and still succeed with women. They're looking for men who aren't afraid of them, who have the ability to raise their attraction response.

You don't have to be an 'alpha' Stallone model of masculinity.

If we all had to be at that level, it wouldn't be biological..everyone is born with the instinct to reproduce and find a mate (or more than one).

Sure their gay guy friends are able to talk to them about issues but it's a guy like you who can fulfill her desires when you know the 'secret to women'.

So it's not just about being the 'best' guy you can be (I improved myself over a decade and it didn't have any direct effect on new relationships).

It's about relational dynamics and having a grounded, proper model of female sexuality instead of the backwards ones we have now.

Yes, we're missing a lot of male role models now in our mainstream media. It's up to men to just kind of take that role themselves and 'be' the man that women want.

I've turned off the t.v. for the most part. I have a tremendous amount of power around other power. I see it for what it is and can immediately tell what kind of message or relationship
it's trying to force me into.

I hope other men can stop being programmed into becoming more of a wuss, instead that they can take some time to step back and get real answers as I have found.

Answers of power and hope. It's great to always be more of a man, but at the same time, understand women, their behavior and your relationship to all of it and your success with compound dramatically from where you used to be.

Go Alpha and cultivate cognition of TRUE female sexuality! I show you on my website.

By: Rion Williams

Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power, body language and social dynamics. Learn how to be an alpha male who is comfortable in his own skin and succeeds with women and dating @ www.abovethegame.net Also, you can get instant access to see the 'secret of women' for yourself @ www.secretofwomen.com/resources.htm

What Attracts A Man To A Woman

SPRUCE up your appearance ladies and take grooming very, very seriously. Let us not blame women who go in for asset-enhancing techniques anymore. For, where a man is concerned, nothing seems to have changed so far as his mating instincts go. He is still the visual creature he was many centuries ago - appearances are all to him!!

And even with appearance, he goes straight for the jugular - those aspects that signify a woman's sexuality are most attractive to him. For a man, the seduction game is all about sex, sex and more sex. Only then comes - even more sex! A woman might as well accept this and be resigned to the fact that it's the sex appeal she oozes that scores over all other attributes she may possess - mental, emotional, spiritual, whatever.


Evolution has geared men to look for facial sexual signals. Research shows men are most attracted to a childlike face, for this arouses their paternal instincts to touch and protect. With eyes, men world over go for the large, luminescent variety. When a woman is attracted to a man, her pupils dilate. Contact lenses give the impression of glistening eyes and permanent dilation of pupils. And sure enough, studies reveal that men find women with contact lenses very sexy! Lips, if we are to believe Freud and zoologists, are an outer manifestation of a woman's sexuality and fill with blood and swell up when she is excited. Men find full, sensual lips attractive. Do you wonder at the silicon injects women undergo to get the bee-bitten swollen look?

For the rest, men find a woman with long neck and long hair more appealing. Long necks signify gender difference, while long hair indicates good health and so potential to produce healthy offspring.

Coming to body shape, a man's ideal for women is a waist-hip ratio of about 70 per cent - and this ratio is actually an indicator of high fertility in a woman. All men love breasts and cleavage, and find a rounded, protruding behind attractive - a symbol of fertility since time immemorial. So, ok, with a man, looks do matter. And how! To the extent that over time, women's bodies have evolved as sexual signals to beckon men!

However, things are different when a man is looking for a long-term partner. Unlike women, men, with their age-old hunting instincts, know exactly what they are looking for when their search for a partner begins. And, a man makes a difference between short-term and long-term partners, with criteria for both differing.

If it is a fling or a one-night stand he is looking for, he looks out for women who are provocatively dressed, sexy and a little drunk and loud. If she doesn't drink, confesses a male colleague, forget about it! You aren't in luck that night. For a short-term affair, she must also be friendly and warm into the bargain.

However, if a man is looking for a long-term relationship, the criteria changes. Now he's looking for a beautiful girl, warm and friendly. She should be sexy but not overtly so - after all you wouldn't want a Mallika Sherawat as long-term girlfriend, would you, exclaims the colleague in horrified tones! She should be 'different' from others - warm, attractive and a good conversationalist. Research shows personality, good looks, brain and humour is a man's wish list in order of priority for a partner.

A man likes a woman to say positive things to him, ask questions about and show interest in whatever he does. Of course the one thing that puts him off is a woman who clings - is too needy and wanting all the time. A woman must give him his space. A trick the colleague shares is that the woman must keep withdrawing a bit and coming back again - so as to keep him on his toes. A man appreciates a slight aloofness over a clingy attitude.

If a man needs to appeal to a woman's vanity to be attractive to her, she needs to appeal to his ego if she is to make an impact on him. Most men are susceptible to compliments that boost their self-esteem. And nobody knows this better than a woman.

Give him single-minded attention, flirt with him, prod him on to talk about his day and work, make appropriately appreciative sounds at the right places and soon you will have him eating out of your hands. Till you keep him guessing, he will dance attendance; the moment he knows you are hooked, he will relax his guard and start taking you for granted. A man somehow is convinced that a woman dresses and grooms herself for him, though research shows women dress more for other women!

Men, however, draw a straight correlation between the amount of effort women take with their appearance and their interest in them. As a result, if somewhere along the line a woman stops looking after her appearance, a man sees it as a signal that he is no longer important to her!

And so, just like a man must never stop complimenting a woman, a woman must always look-after her appearance for her man's sake. If he must always pander to her vanity, she needs to pander to his ego. When a woman looks for a sense of humour in a man, she means he should be able to make her laugh; when he seeks a woman with a sense of humour, a man means she should be able to laugh at his jokes! While a woman looks for a bit of a scoundrel in a short-term relationship, he is looking for a bit of a vamp. However for long-term, both change criteria and look for more mind than matter! Now she seeks a guy with potential for moving ahead, while he looks for a good homemaker.

Sounds so clinical and unromantic, doesn't it? And yet, knowingly or unknowingly, it all boils down to just that! What's so different about the 21st century? Primal instincts are still as much at play beneath a veneer of civilization.

By: Michael Douglas

Michael Douglas is a relationship expert and the webmaster of www.loversmanual.com where he offers free dating tips for men on how to succeed with women and relationship advice for women to help them in building healthy relationship with men.

How To Seduce Women Easily

have a few tricks for seducing women easily which I am going to share with you in this article. Specifically I will discuss how to "play her cards before she can", the obsession factor, and finally, what I call "ultimate attitude". I will discuss what each of these are in detail, and how you can use them to start seducing women easily. At the end of this article you should have the ability to skyrocket your dating activities and share the company of more beautiful women than ever before.

Once you understand the game that is being played, you will be able to start seducing women easily. That game is attraction. It's kind of like cards. Whoever throws down the trump wins the hand. Here's how a typical dating scenario plays out. Man meets women, and to win her attention he does nice things for her. This does win her attention, but not her attraction. Instead it makes her utter the words every man hates...


"Let's just be friend." She played her trump card and you lost.

Think about how many times this happens to men, and how few times it works the other way around, where the man wants to be the friend. It's because the man is trying to win the woman's affection and thus, is being controlled.

Here's what you can do to take away her "friends" card. When you first meet her, ask her out for a simple 20 minute "primer date". Say something like, "We can meet for 20 minutes to have some tea and some stimulating conversation. if nothing else, sounds like I'll make a nice friend." What does that say to her? It says you make the choice of whether or not you find her attractive. In other words, instead of fighting for her affection, she is going to have to fight for yours.

Homework assignment: Think of all the times women play their trump cards on men. Find a way to play those same cards on them, like the example above.

The second trick to seducing women easily is the "good obsession" factor. Do you know how people become obsessed by things? Knowing this is the key to seducing women easily. All obsession have two things. A reward and a punishment. However, what makes an obsession work is that the reward and punishment are given out unpredictably. Like slot machines.

Now, here's how you take that information and make it work for you when seducing women.

Say a girl gives you a compliment. The first time you say thanks. The second time she gives you a compliment you say something like, "Is that the best you could come up with?" Or if she comes over and sits on your lap, the first time you give her a hug. The second time she does it you push her away. You might call her a bad girl, and then give her a kiss. Or even better, tell her, "Let's just be friends" and then give her a kiss.

Do you see how this fits into creating an obsession for you? Now don't take it to far... you want to make the woman attracted to you, not a nut case.

The third trick, and in fact all tricks for seducing women easily comes down to attitude. I have found that the most successful seducers can say almost anything when approaching a woman and still get a date from them. Why? Because they share the same attitude, and it shows in their words, actions and body language. What is that attitude? It goes like this:

"I know you are totally into me, and while I'm not sure if I'm into you, I'm kind enough to give you a chance to prove yourself." That is the ultimate attitude for seducing women easily. So how do you get that attitude? Well you won't get it by reading one measly article and trying it out once. You need to start saying it to yourself everyday, over and over. And keep saying it regardless of how many women turn you down.

Eventually by saying it, you will break your current attitude of how women view you, and over time you will "get it". Then you will become a machine at seducing women easily.

By: Kurt Dight
Kurt Dight has created a free 5 day mini course in "how to seduce any women". It is available for instant access only for a limited time at www.dating-secrets2.com/