Confidence Building For The Dating Man

Confidence is one of the most important things in a relationship. If you ask people what the most important thing is they will generally answer either looks, personality or trustworthiness. But, what fuels all of those great qualities? It is the persons ability to present themselves and have the guts to tell the truth!

Seriously, confidence is a major contender in any relationship and if you don't have much, here is how to change that.

Dating Tips For Men - Confidence From Strengths

This may sound like a no-brainer and it kind of is, but many people do not realize how important uncovering their strengths truly is. Everyone has positive qualities, but they rarely point them out. Instead, they are too busy with their flaws or other negative qualities. If all you do is box yourself in the head because your weight, ears, hair, shyness or whatever it is, eventually you will have a head that is caved in. No joke, just like if someone else constantly bashed your self esteem, you can do the same thing to yourself. It takes longer when you are the one that downs yourself, but the outcome is the same.

To rectify this situation take a self inventory and look for good things. Are you abnormally strong, attractive, great personality, a helper, but no matter what it is find it. Make a list if you have to, because you need to be able to readily identify these positive strengths that you have. When you are on a date with a woman or approaching her to ask for a date, you need to be able to capitalize on your strengths. You are at some level trying to sell yourself to someone else, so speak positively!

Dating Tips For Men - Grooming yourself to love

How you present yourself will tell a woman a great deal about who you are and what you think of yourself. You already know that cleanliness is a must at any level, but dressing nice, a clean shaven face and smelling good are also "musts". Take a long look in the mirror to determine if you are presenting yourself or selling yourself positively. If not, you need to find a way to change it and quick! Go to the salon, shopping or whatever you need to do to change the problem and present yourself in a positive light.

Women do not like a man that is not groomed well. They have a reputation to keep and they do not want their friends talking about how sloppy their new boyfriend is. There is also another good reason to maintain your manner of hygiene, dress and looks. Men that present themselves well and are dressed nice feel better about themselves. They hold themselves better, are more confident and are able to swoon a woman more easily.

Dating tips for men - Conversation starters

If you are shy it can be difficult to find the right words to start a conversation with that good-looking woman. Don't worry though, many men (even the confident ones) have trouble with the right words to start the conversation with a beautiful woman.

There are a few tips and tricks that work even if you are shy or just simply do not know what to say.

First, you need to scan the situation and environment around the both of you. Is it conducive to communication. What this means is can you hear, or is it so loud that you would have to scream at her?

This can really make it difficult regardless of how great your conversation starter is. In addition, the environment can lend itself to great conversation. If you are watching a play, at intermission, you could start a conversation about the leading actor/actress. If you are at a football game, you could say something about the team, a particular player or play that took place in the game. Here are some other great conversation starters:

1. Weather - the weather is always a great conversation starter

2. Sports results - where appropriate, how good the team is doing, new players...

3. Work related issues - new supervisors, rules...

4. City government - recent changes, new ordinances, raising water rates...

5. Reality television shows - outcomes, new stars, and new shows...

Confidence really does need to be something that you work on. You wont just wake up one morning and find you are supremely confident. Don't worry too much if you get rejected every now and again as it may not be your fault and may just be to do with the other person's situation or mindset at that particular time. It's very important that you brush yourself off, think about what you could have done differently and then try again and before you know it approaching someone of the opposite sex will become second nature.




About the Author
Lee Blackspur is the owner of My-Dating-Advice.com which provides online and offline dating tips, advice and articles for men, women and teens of all ages and experience.