A Guide To Speed Dating - What To Ask

Speed dating is a new way to meet potential mates and many people find themselves wondering what the appropriate questions to ask really are.

Most people want their questions answered, but don't want to seem rude or that they are prying into the person's personal life. That is where a guide to speed dating is extremely helpful.
There are many guides that detail what to wear, how to act, what to say and several other issues that are available online. This article will help you get started in the speed dating arena with great success. Here are some of the common questions that people want to know and excellent ways to ask them.

1. Now the question that is the most popular, but can seem the most superficial is the person's financial worth. If you ask them what they do for a living it appears that you're trying to find out exactly how much money is in their wallet. This is not something that you really want to take a chance in offending the individual with, but you want to know how successful this person really is.

A good way to find out what they do for a living is to start out talking about their hobbies, pasttimes and how much free time they have. When you ask questions like this most individuals will lead into either they don't have much free time because of work or something else that would bring up their career. Now you are completely justified in asking what they do for a living.


2. Another sticky question that most people want to know, without asking is whether or not the person has been married and has children. A good way to ask this question without a direct inquiry is too mention whether or not the person wants children in life. They will usually pick up the conversation and explain either they have been married before, have children or say whether or not they would want any children. This will answer your question without appearing to be nosy.

It is all about how to ask questions in a roundabout way without too much prying.
The question about children will also bring up any previous marriages and then you can take the conversation from there. If a marriage is not brought up you could always ask whether or not they want to be married sometime in the future.

3. A very important question that most people shy away from is beliefs or religion. If you are wanting to know the person's faith or beliefs, talk about your own. You do not have to delve deep into your beliefs or religion in order to find out the basics of this person's beliefs. In fact it is not recommended to dig into deep conversation or disclose a great deal of information during a speed dating setting.

Not that it is not correct or that you should not disclose your beliefs, but you simply do not have enough time when you are screening potential mates. Save a deeper conversation for later when you have more time and you know that this person may be someone that you would be spending more time with. What point is there getting too deep into a person's beliefs if you will never make contact with them again? Only hit the surface and remember that you are screening this person not finding out their entire life's history. That comes later.

4. Money. Everyone wants to know if someone is financially successful or not. A good career does not always mean that the person has money in the bank, good credit or the ability to live well. Nor does a blue collar career mean that a person does not live well, or have the ability to make a large purchase. Now you can't ask a person how much money they have in the bank, but you can word the conversation to get a good idea.

A good way to find out where this person lives or the neighborhood is to talk about a surrounding store, club, church or other public place around your house. When you talk about how close this place is to your house then you may ask do you know where it is, and then say a 'oh do you live around there as well?'. That will then lead on to things like the size of their house and whether it is in a good neighborhood or not.

Do you see how it works? It doesn't have to be direct questions, rather well worded ones.
The main thing to remember when speed dating is to go prepared so sit down before the event and plan the questions you are going to ask.

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Lee Blackspur is the owner of My-Dating-Advice.com which provides online and offline dating tips, advice and articles for men, women and teens of all ages and experience.